Ain’t no way anyone makin 12 million a year settling for me 🤣
That is not a 12-million dollar earners’ kitchen
Naw that’s just rent in LA.
How do people feel about stay at home spouses without kids? Is that something that is generally frowned upon?
People feel weird about it, but it’s perfectly fine.
My wife doesn’t work a paying job, we don’t have kids, but in almost every conversation when I’m meeting someone when they ask what my wife does and I tell them, they always follow it up with like, “Oh does she work from home?” or “Oh, does she sell stuff online?”
It often breaks their brain that she doesn’t work a paid job.
But surely she does something, right? I’d love the opportunity to no longer work & still be comfortable, but at the same time I know I’ll get bored. I like working, I just hate that capitalism forces me.
Great job if you can get it!
Bro, I’d do that if my partner made one twentieth of this kinda money.
No because of gender roles i will demand she quits this high paying job and stay at home and we both live off my minimum wage. /s
$12 million a year? In two years time we’re retired and the kids are set for life.
Do I have to wear the lace all the time? I don’t look good in lace.
And honestly probably not; not because I have any objections to her being the breadwinner or have any weird ideas about who raises kids, but mostly because I’m not sure I could do it. I’d be a pretty shit father.
Not wanting to be a stay-at-home dad feels like such a boomer mentality. Like, seriously, what father is so disengaged from their kids that they wouldn’t want to spend more time with them, given the option? Being a stay-at-home parent is a lot of work, no one’s contesting that, but there’s no contesting that it’s more satisfying work than working for some megacorp’s bottom line.
I’m sitting here cuddling with my infant son and I never want to go back to work. I’ll have to (so will my wife), and I hate that for both of us. But I definitely don’t want to.
I can empathize. I went back to work a month ago now. It was/is hard to be unavailable.
Luckily, I work from home in a fairly independent role and my wife is still on leave, so we’re still largely co-parenting. We could afford to have me stay at home, but we’re saying that the extra I make above the truly wild cost of daycare will go to his education, financial security, and cultural enrichment.
We’re also telling ourselves that daycare will be a positive/important social experience for him because we have a small friend group locally and family is halfway across the US.
To be fair, some people aren’t great at being a homemaker–it’s a particular passion and skill set and it’s not for everyone. But blindly drawing that distinction on gender lines is definitely a boomer thing.
Had an older guy at work who had four kids, and when it came up in conversation, he proudly noted that he had never changed a diaper. Told him that I’d be mortified to admit I was such a useless dad.
I wasn’t great at it, until I learned how to do it. It’s not hard. YouTube helps.
There are some aspects that aren’t skill-based though. Anyone can do it, but some people thrive in that environment, while others have a more difficult time, just like any other job.
what father is so disengaged from their kids that they wouldn’t want to spend more time with them, given the option?
Boomers, you said it yourself. Being a stay at home dad was unheard of and seen as emasculating. So silly.
Yeah, it has the same energy as the endless jokes about men hating their wives.
Or babysitting. “Stuck babysitting again, haha?”. Nope, just walking around with my child like any other parent.
Man COVID was the chance for me to do that and it was amazing. Being stuck with my wife and kid 24/7 was a blessing. A monkeys paw blessing for sure but I still enjoyed it.
Counterpoint: I took some months off work when my first one was born. And I hated it. I felt that all my value was as “baby-sustaining-machine”, the highest mental skill requested any given day was loading a laundry load and it was very socially isolating (not many people available during working hours for socializing). At the same time, it was stressful being constantly the only one in charge. I was relieved to drop them at daycare and get back to work.
Now that they are of early school age, I enjoy spending time with them, but I also find it taxing. I know I wouldn’t be a good parent if I were to do it 24/7. But I am glad to spend every non-school moments together.
I am firmly of the opinion that babies suck, but kids - once they reach the age that they can engage with you at some minimal level - are great, and the older they get, the more fun they are.
But by then they have school, so I can as well have my own job.
Sure, I wouldn’t want anymore an all-encompassing job as I had before, but a 9-5 is perfect.
Tbh, I don’t want to be any kind of dad.
Daddy! At long last, I’ve finally found you!!
That’s a core experience of being a dad. Kids are a pain in the fucking arse sometimes.
I mean I hate kids but I like money. $12M is honestly about $11.7M past that inflection point though.
Yeah, I turn down invitations to go out after my nighttime board meetings if it means I get home in time to put my kids to bed. I take them to school in the morning and pick them up just about every day. Sometimes they get on every single one of my nerves, but I love being home with them, playing with them, making dinners that they complain about and it makes my blood boil. It’s all part of the package. The whole idea of the silent workaholic dad is just crazy to me. I want to be the one who takes them to the park.
I have a hard time with this. I’m a teacher, love my job, and genuinely think its important. But I hate that I have to spend so much time away from my kids and even when Im home I end up spending hours planning, grading, etc.
Just kinda sucks.
I literally dream of this.
Dude I’d be a stay at home dad if my wife was making 70k a year
Yeah! I’m even encouraging my wife to put herself out there more and ask for promotions.
No because I don’t want to be a dad
I would
Then hire a cleaner
A chef
A gardener
A housemaid
And just chill with my kids
Word. Spending time with them is the real prize.
Just hire a nanny too and go get milk from the store.
Damned amateur.
why would I get milk from the store when the nanny can just milk me instead?
You can milk anything with nipples.
I would do this and develop a drinking problem.
Like, a bigger drinking problem.
I’d get a more ergonomic vacuum cleaner though.
You can totally tell from the pic he never user a vac cleaner and or cooked in his frighing life…
Sussudio?
I got to be a stay at home dad for a couple years. It was a wonderful experience and I miss it.
The lighting in these pics is odd, like this was taken in the middle of the night, while that guy was sleep walking. Also that doesn’t look like a place you live when you make $12m a year.
