It’s a test and you failed it by being weird and strange and obnoxious, just let her bring her friend it’s literally not a downside for you. She’ll feel more comfortable by bringing her friend which can only be a good thing for you.
I don’t really consider myself to be particularly spectacular in the social department but even I wouldn’t have reacted like that. To be crass, why wouldn’t you want more girls on your date?
Dude showed he’s annoyed seeing girl seeks protection, by calling the friend RoboCop, and implied she might have wanted him to pay for both, putting carriage before horses.
What you say literally can often show what you think inside, and in a first date scenario every sign will be interpreted
For example, not showing much respect for the female need for protection on a first date can mean dude doesn’t think women have reason to feel unsafe
To be fair to him, his first response was just that he wasn’t paying for her. Her reply to that was about how she invited her for protection but she did not say anything about how they didn’t expect him to pay.
He said he’s not paying for her, the implication is they are going out to eat for a date. Not chilling at home or somewhere in private. Bestie can chill somewhere else other than at the table the date is happening at, if homegirl feels threatened or scared of the guy she can signal for bestie.
I can totally understand wanting a trusted friend around to ensure a date goes fine, hell ive done it several times for girls and guys I’m friends with. But that safety net can stay in the background and doesn’t need to be at the table interfering with the date. But never once did I expect the friend I was wingmanning for to buy me food or drink while I hovered in the background. All homegirl had to say is bestie is paying their own way or homegirl was gonna give her some money.
She’s covering her butt, understandably, by bringing a friend, and he’s covering his by stating he’s not paying for the third wheel.
Mh is he not showing he’s annoyed by her friend tagging along? And why bringing money up?
I mean, if it were happening to me, where I live, I wouldn’t even think she was going to expect me to pay not even for herself, and if she ends up expecting or pressuring me, I just know she’s not the one. What’s there to be scared of? Worst case scenario I just leave my part on the table and go away
I know of memes about women going to first fates just to have nights out without paying, but it’s very far from what I see happening where I live, and I suspect it’s just manophase echo chamberism. Because, again, one can just put their part on the table and leave, and perhaps date within one’s social circle so to avoid this kind of social distortion
It’s a test and you failed it by being weird and strange and obnoxious, just let her bring her friend it’s literally not a downside for you. She’ll feel more comfortable by bringing her friend which can only be a good thing for you.
I don’t really consider myself to be particularly spectacular in the social department but even I wouldn’t have reacted like that. To be crass, why wouldn’t you want more girls on your date?
If you believed the person was only coming along to heckle you or otherwise be annoying, I can imagine why.
But why go out at all on these terms?
Dude never said friend can’t come, dude just said he’s not covering her bill.
I’m fine with a girl bringing a buddy or backup but don’t make it a third wheel unless your intention from the start is a menage trios.
ménage à trois?
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What?
Literally: a household of three. A thrupple in modern parlance
the last 2 words in the parent comment should have been these 3
Yeah, but I still have no idea what its meant to be
It means a threesome. I think in French it’s technically “household of three”? But it’s meaning has always been threesome.
yeah my keyboard doesn’t have those funni french accents.
that’s excusable, but you also lost “a” and butchered “trois” 😘
Maybe I just to respect the French language /s
Dude showed he’s annoyed seeing girl seeks protection, by calling the friend RoboCop, and implied she might have wanted him to pay for both, putting carriage before horses.
What you say literally can often show what you think inside, and in a first date scenario every sign will be interpreted
For example, not showing much respect for the female need for protection on a first date can mean dude doesn’t think women have reason to feel unsafe
To be fair to him, his first response was just that he wasn’t paying for her. Her reply to that was about how she invited her for protection but she did not say anything about how they didn’t expect him to pay.
Your read of the situation is pretty tilted, ngl.
He said he’s not paying for her, the implication is they are going out to eat for a date. Not chilling at home or somewhere in private. Bestie can chill somewhere else other than at the table the date is happening at, if homegirl feels threatened or scared of the guy she can signal for bestie.
I can totally understand wanting a trusted friend around to ensure a date goes fine, hell ive done it several times for girls and guys I’m friends with. But that safety net can stay in the background and doesn’t need to be at the table interfering with the date. But never once did I expect the friend I was wingmanning for to buy me food or drink while I hovered in the background. All homegirl had to say is bestie is paying their own way or homegirl was gonna give her some money.
She’s covering her butt, understandably, by bringing a friend, and he’s covering his by stating he’s not paying for the third wheel.
Mh is he not showing he’s annoyed by her friend tagging along? And why bringing money up?
I mean, if it were happening to me, where I live, I wouldn’t even think she was going to expect me to pay not even for herself, and if she ends up expecting or pressuring me, I just know she’s not the one. What’s there to be scared of? Worst case scenario I just leave my part on the table and go away
I know of memes about women going to first fates just to have nights out without paying, but it’s very far from what I see happening where I live, and I suspect it’s just manophase echo chamberism. Because, again, one can just put their part on the table and leave, and perhaps date within one’s social circle so to avoid this kind of social distortion
This play is regarded as a common ploy.