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    Nobody is attracted to intelligence. Don’t say you are because you aren’t. You’re attracted to the body. And whoever you’re with is attracted to your body. That’s romantic love. If you’re upset that people don’t love you for your brain, you suffer from body dysmorphia.

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      If that was even remotely true then the entire idea of seduction wouldn’t exist. Convincing someone who didn’t want to sleep with you to sleep with you wouldn’t be a fucking thing, you absolute moron.

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        you absolute moron.

        Jesus Christ! Friendly fuck, ainch ya. This proves my point about the hypernegativity. I’m telling everyone here, they’re good lookcking, and the response is I’m fucking moron. Damn.

        To address what you’re saying about seduction: You can’t sell a bald man a comb. A woman isn’t going to be romantically involved with you if she doesn’t want to. You have a spooky level of cynicism regarding this.

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          Look at your responses and your downvotes. Obviously nobody agrees with you. If you weren’t a moron you’d maybe look at this as an opportunity for self reflection and growth.

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        I’m pretty sure the OP meme is about a heterosexual dude, so these replies are nitpicking and forcing the conversation to be about something tangentially related.

        What I’m talking about are hyperintelligent heterosexual nerds who suffer from body dysmorphia and who try to impress women with how insanely smart they are. Women don’t care about your brain. No matter how physically ugly you think you are, you’re not. There are literally a million women on this planet who find you attractive and you will make their pussies sopping wet when they see you.

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      Er, no. No, this is just not how humans work. Even if we take love out of the equation and talk only about lust, that can be triggered by all sorts of things and a person’s physical shape is only one of them. A particular look, the way a person smells, how they carry themselves, their voice, their charm, their laugh, and a thousand and one other things can be the thing that makes you want to jump someone’s bones.

    • MnemonicBump@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      I have literally never wanted to fuck someone that I couldn’t have an intelligent conversation with, because, like, what would we even talk about. Can I recognize that I am physically attracted to someone and I find them fuckable? Yes, obviously. But, would I? just because of that physical attraction? No. Just, why? Again, what would we talk about?

      Would I marry someone who I found really invigorating and intellectually fulfilling even if I’m not necessarily physically attracted to initially or in the traditional sense and then learn to love their bodies and get really into it? Yes, absolutely.

      Human attraction isn’t some weird binary thing and it //certainly// isn’t solely physical.

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        I have literally never wanted to fuck someone that I couldn’t have an intelligent conversation with, because, like, what would we even talk about.

        Sweet is more important than smart, and you just talk about dumb things. Instead of talking about Schroedinger’s Cat and how the thought experiment illustrated problems with the Copenhagen Interpretation, you talk about real cats and how cute they are.

        Would I marry someone who I found really invigorating and intellectually fulfilling even if I’m not necessarily physically attracted to initially or in the traditional sense and then learn to love their bodies and get really into it? Yes, absolutely.

        You’re over thinking it. You’re not “learning to love their bodies”, you’re just growing warm for their form.

        You guys are talking yourselves out of some great relationships and breaking hearts and not even know it.

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      i’m asexual-ish but not sex repulsed. i don’t care for the body, i care deeply about the mind

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        For sexual people, it’s about the body and the problem with Internet nerds is that they’re hyperintelligent and hypernegative and think their bodies suck and want people to be sexually attracted to their brains. But their bodies don’t suck, and they’re not physically ugly.

        I can guarantee you every guy here who’s moping about being lonely has dozens of women masturbating to the thought of them every night. And their not masturbating to thought of them programming in C++.

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        Oh man, I am so sorry I told everyone here that they’re physically attractive. Okay. You win. I’m insane. You’re right. You’re all ugly monsters who will never find love.

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          You’re not even trying to understand why everyone disagrees with you. In fact, you’re refusing to even acknowledge that you could be mistaken in your premise that people aren’t attracted to intelligence, and instead lash out.
          That is why you need therapy.

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            You’re not even trying to understand why everyone disagrees with you.

            That’s fine. They’re not even trying to understand what I was saying.

            In fact, you’re refusing to even acknowledge that you could be mistaken in your premise that people aren’t attracted to intelligence, and instead lash out. That is why you need therapy.

            Are you being serious? Or just attacking me like the other person? Because I’m pretty sure if I go to a therapist and I show them these exchanges, they’re not going to say that I’m the one who needs therapy.

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              No, they will.

              You unilaterally claimed that nobody is attracted to intelligence, that everyone is just pretending and they’re really only attracted to physical appearance. Even as hyperbole, that is a wildly unhealthy thing to believe, and you absolutely called yourself out.

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      Am I the only husband that truly values and loves my wife’s brain and mind and intelligence and spirit and soul and kindness more than just a body?

      Bodies are fleeting. Fall in love with the person, not the flesh-mech-suit.

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        We’re on the Internet so you’re probably in the majority. But the vast majority of people marry someone they want to fuck. Sure, the mind and spirit is part of it, but I love the mind and spirit of my cat but I don’t want to marry her.