Are friends just supposed to be like a TV? You talk to them when it’s convenient for you and you can’t think of something else to do?
I’ve just realized all the people I thought were my friends only talk to me on their schedule, when they feel like it. I’m left on read for days, meetings are ignored, text message conversations just end abruptly until they get back from vacation…
Is this it? Is this what friendship is? Because I don’t want it. I don’t want to feel like I have people to rely on only to find out that I’m just a convenience for people.
No, I’ve had some pretty good friendships and real ones are not supposed to be like that at all.
Thinking of people as disposable like that, of just getting them out the drawer using them when convenient and then putting them back in the drawer again, is one of the many symptoms of the throwaway society we have developed and is not normal at all.
We treat objects like this, we treat the Earth like this, we treat life itself like this, so it’s unsurprising that we treat other people like this too, because it’s become so normalised, we grow up thinking that way, that we don’t even think of it as abnormal anymore.
We’re supposed to have evolved to have maybe 100 relationships max in our entire lives. I think now that we are surrounded by a sea of people with nothing particular tying us to any of them, nobody is worth putting the effort into because they could just easily drift away–change jobs, get married, move, find another group of friends, etc.
Online dating is the perfect embodiment of this. Nobody wants to commit because of this itch that there’s someone better out there.