Are friends just supposed to be like a TV? You talk to them when it’s convenient for you and you can’t think of something else to do?
I’ve just realized all the people I thought were my friends only talk to me on their schedule, when they feel like it. I’m left on read for days, meetings are ignored, text message conversations just end abruptly until they get back from vacation…
Is this it? Is this what friendship is? Because I don’t want it. I don’t want to feel like I have people to rely on only to find out that I’m just a convenience for people.
We’re supposed to have evolved to have maybe 100 relationships max in our entire lives. I think now that we are surrounded by a sea of people with nothing particular tying us to any of them, nobody is worth putting the effort into because they could just easily drift away–change jobs, get married, move, find another group of friends, etc.
Online dating is the perfect embodiment of this. Nobody wants to commit because of this itch that there’s someone better out there.
When the right person, or people, come along, whether as friends or as lovers they are worth putting your all into. In my experience anyway. The trouble is that the right people are so damn rare. If nearly everybody treats each other as disposable, then is it any wonder that real love or friendship can hardly be found?
I mean forget about 100 people max… most don’t even have 10 real friendships/relationships. People don’t even connect with their own damn neighbors anymore even in the ok neighborhoods.
BTW I’m the exact same c64z86 you just replied to above, just to avoid any confusion! I’m new at this so I’m trying out a bunch of different lemmies and Piefeds, but so far I’m liking this one the most. It even allows GIF banner profile images! XD