Here is what I do: Host your friends at your place for sports, grilling, video games, playing touch football or soccer in your backyard, etc. Much better activities, make memories, and a lot cheaper, more intimate, and better for everyone’s relationship.
Ah unfortunately that would require a place more substantial than a small bedroom in my dad’s apartment 40 minutes out in the boonies. So I have to essentially wait for my ADHD friends to make plans at their bigger places, which is pretty infrequent since they’re way more happy just hanging out on discord every night than I am.
Hopefully the D&D community won’t hate me for this, but my experience with it is that everyone involved wants to be the main character. Everyone has to be quirky and have some kind of bit and it invariably slows any progress and makes the entire experience a drag.
ah, that’s tough. what I’ve done in a similar situation is get the group together to have a chat about the best place to hang out and give people roles to fulfill. that way hangouts go smoothly and everybody is happy with the contributions and effort from everybody else.
also, I am decently financially secure now, and I still get anxious when I spend more than 20 bucks a few times a week. it just goes away more quickly when I can justify it. but I still don’t like to “waste” money on impermanent things like overpriced dinners or activity tickets to something I could have done at home.
what I can say is that a friend group that hangs out, even remotely, on a regular and frequent routine is a pretty great thing. it gets harder as you get older and people’s families and responsibilities grow especially if you’re in different cities
Here is what I do: Host your friends at your place for sports, grilling, video games, playing touch football or soccer in your backyard, etc. Much better activities, make memories, and a lot cheaper, more intimate, and better for everyone’s relationship.
Ah unfortunately that would require a place more substantial than a small bedroom in my dad’s apartment 40 minutes out in the boonies. So I have to essentially wait for my ADHD friends to make plans at their bigger places, which is pretty infrequent since they’re way more happy just hanging out on discord every night than I am.
How do you feel about D&D?
Hopefully the D&D community won’t hate me for this, but my experience with it is that everyone involved wants to be the main character. Everyone has to be quirky and have some kind of bit and it invariably slows any progress and makes the entire experience a drag.
ah, that’s tough. what I’ve done in a similar situation is get the group together to have a chat about the best place to hang out and give people roles to fulfill. that way hangouts go smoothly and everybody is happy with the contributions and effort from everybody else.
also, I am decently financially secure now, and I still get anxious when I spend more than 20 bucks a few times a week. it just goes away more quickly when I can justify it. but I still don’t like to “waste” money on impermanent things like overpriced dinners or activity tickets to something I could have done at home.
what I can say is that a friend group that hangs out, even remotely, on a regular and frequent routine is a pretty great thing. it gets harder as you get older and people’s families and responsibilities grow especially if you’re in different cities