As a moderately broad shouldered guy who prefers side sleeping, I need robust pillow support.

I find that no pillow I buy, at any price, will last more than six months before its going flat every night.

Am I upset about about something that’s perfectly normal here?

Like the “normal amount of toilet roll,” I feel like this is one of those things that we never know what is normal for others.

  • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    11·
    3 days ago

    have you tried buckwheat hull pillows? they’re pretty firm and stay firm in my experience, and you can always take out or add more hulls for a more or less firm pillow - might be helpful?

    I sorta struggle with this because I like to sleep on my back, but I like to get sleepy on my side first, and so my pillow needs to be thinner for back sleeping, but when I’m on my side I need more neck support - so I sleep with a little extra pillow or something like a shirt, robe, etc. that I can fit under my neck on just that part of the pillow (also helpful for throwing over my face / eyes so I can sleep in when it’s light in the morning).

    • essell@lemmy.worldOP
      4·
      3 days ago

      Definitely worth a try. I worry they’re “noisy” if I move in the night. Which I do. A lot.

      • LastYearsIrritant@sopuli.xyzEnglish
        2·
        2 hours ago

        Not going to lie, it’s expensive…

        https://www.pinetales.com/products/buckwheat-pillow?variant=45182891851974

        Get the “standard size” and then play with how much buckwheat is inside (there’s a zipper)

        This one has a little foam pad cover, I find it works better for me since sleeping directly on a bag of buckwheat can feel a little weird.

        I fluff it up a little taller when I sleep on my side, then flatten it out to sleep on my back (I switch positions 3-4 times a night). Best pillow I ever owned.

      • ccunning@lemmy.world
        6·
        3 days ago

        They take some getting used to but I absolutely adore mine. I don’t find mine to be noisy but I’ve also found mine has help reduce the amount of repositioning I do at night.

      • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        3·
        3 days ago

        they’re not too noisy in my experience - but it absolutely is an adjustment to sleeping with them

        they also really help with overheating in the summer compared to most other kinds of pillows, they breathe much better