Maybe it’s cuz I’m an introvert, but I realized I haven’t really talk to my aunts/uncles outside of family gatherings that I was forced to go to…
Like idk, older generation feels so weird… like they feel kinda intimidating…
Maybe it’s cuz I’m an introvert, but I realized I haven’t really talk to my aunts/uncles outside of family gatherings that I was forced to go to…
Like idk, older generation feels so weird… like they feel kinda intimidating…
No. Up until a few years ago, I considered my extended familiy to be important. My parents and their siblings had had their fair share of drama and infighting, but ‘my’ generation (I am almost 50 years old), seemed to get along, even if me rarely met up. However, when my mother’s oldest living sister died, I went to her funeral, as I considered it natural to pay my respect and support my mother and living aunts. It was clear that my presence (and my other cousins who showed up) was not appreciated by her children. That day, I lost more than just one aunt.
I remember I kinda skipped my paternal grandmother’s funeral since I’m depressed af and I didn’t even know her well and never liked her, and had to go to another city and didn’t like the travel time… so I didn’t go, but the rest of my immediate family went…
So yea I probably look like an asshole to them… but like… this is Chinese culture… mental health isn’t talked about… so my parents just lied and told them I had college stuff and was busy. I wasn’t even in college anymore, too depressed and I withdrew. So…
Fucking conservative cultures… can’t even mention depression cuz they see you as “ooh scary crazy person” or maybe “useless weakling”
You can’t choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Make sure to choose wisely.
Also: depression is no joke. Hang in there and don’t let the bad thoughts win.