• JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyz
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      4 hours ago

      Sorry to sound like a dick,but:

      Well, multiple of my relatives and if you count discrimination as abuse, then ~30% of people I met throughout my whole life. Yes, I know it wasn’t actually a question.

      And all my cynical comments aside, I know it’s probably about society’s unreasonable expectations and people using you for their own advantage (even indirectly).

      My advice to people reading books like this is to tell more people (who objectively deserve it) to go fuck themselves and be nice and compassionate only to people who deserve it (who want to help others and don’t fuck others over for their own advantage/ feeling of superiority).

      My rant over.

      • lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        society’s unreasonable expectations and people using you for their own advantage

        The former kind of, the latter no.

        It basically says that (1) many people who think of themselves as lazy, actually do a lot and shouldn’t be too hard to themselves and (2) people who are seen as lazy have a reason like depression or not seeing meaning in what they are supposed to do.

        It’s not so much a self-help book but rather critical on the societal level. We value efficiency far very much and should put more emphasis on leisure and enjoyment. They have a part on positive psychology, meaning not treating mentally ill people but helping healthy people lead even better lives.