I (23M) started therapy today, hooray!

Only problem is, my family is too goddamn spicy. Once I got into my brother’s (25M) increasingly homicidal fantasies and animal killings, she stopped me before I mentioned the threats he made to kill people and told me that she is a mandated reporter and has an obligation to report certain situations to the authorities.

I think adding police to the equation will make everything worse and immediately paint a target on my back because I am the only one who would ever disclose the violence that happens under this roof. It might result in me being homeless if I have to flee for my life. I live in Ohio and it’s the middle of winter, so not a great start.

I wanted to work with a therapist because I grew up in this place and it traumatized me so badly that I’m scared of leaving this dump (not to mention, I have disabilities now that make that difficult). How much will I have to tiptoe around here? Is merely being afraid that someone will use violence against me reportable? What about if they fantasize about murder and domestic terrorism? What about violent crimes that they committed in the past? Or specific threats in the present?

Is therapy just not the right fit for this kind of thing? Did I end up with a heavy duty “fuck you” problem and therapy is just for “I feel sad sometimes” problems? It feels like bullshit to have to self-censor so much just because things were harder for me. How is throwing cops at the problem supposed to help when there is no universal basic sustenance or housing for the victims to escape to?

What are your experiences with mandated reporting, and how do you avoid triggering it?

  • Lord Wiggle@lemmy.world
    5·
    23 hours ago

    Do you even hear yourself mate. When someone is extremily violent and makes death threats, they definitely need attention from the authorities.

    You claim a psychiatrist or therapist isn’t qualified to see when a person is mentally ill on a level of being a threat to society. You claim medical papers are dramatized books. Are you just trolling us or are you actually that deranged? Maybe get some therapy yourself mate.

    • slowcakes@programming.dev
      14·
      15 hours ago

      Dude how many people die everyday because their abusive SO kills them, even though they have been in contact with authorities? Happens everyday, everyday some dies because the cops can’t do shit.

      What you don’t understand is: I’m not saying don’t call the cops, what I’m saying is you are saying stupid fucking shit, that isn’t help full at all. YOU don’t know his reality, he obviously don’t want to involve polis, because he’s afraid, you get it? It’s not about society, it’s about him. A common trait with serial killers is that they lack the feeling of sympathy, are you a serial killer. Do you have hard feeling what others might be feeling, and hard time understanding why they don’t want to involve the police? Why is that?

      • Lord Wiggle@lemmy.world
        4·
        9 hours ago

        I’m not saying don’t call the cops

        You’re saying it’s useless to call them as they can’t do shit. You’re basically saying there’s nothing you can do, so just let it play out.

        what I’m saying is you are saying stupid fucking shit, that isn’t help full at all

        Ah ok. Luckily you’re saying wise and helpful stuff. Ffs

        YOU don’t know his reality

        Clearly you do somehow, even though you read the post so poorly you thought he was a she.

        he obviously don’t want to involve polis, because he’s afraid, you get it?

        Yeah, I get it, fear can prevent you from doing the right thing. That’s why people have trouble leaving cults too. Doesn’t change the fact he should get out of this situation ASAP and let his therapist do her job.

        A common trait with serial killers is that they lack the feeling of sympathy, are you a serial killer. Do you have hard feeling what others might be feeling, and hard time understanding why they don’t want to involve the police? Why is that?

        What?!? xD why would you say that? I literally gave the advice to get out of the situation ASAP and let the professionals do their job, to make sure he’s safe. That’s why you suspect I’m a serial killer without empathy? While you say authorities can’t do anything, professionals don’t know anything, he should stay with his violent and dangerous brother out of empathy. Do you also believe the authorities are lizard people or something?

        You definitely need therapy mate. You’re beyond fucked up. Please go talk to someone.

        I’m not going to continue replying your rage bait bullshit, you’re just a troll, or at least I hope you are because if you’re serious, you definitely need help. I really feel sorry for you. Best of luck.