• Beacon@fedia.io
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    17 hours ago

    I respect it, but i don’t get it, and it would be a complete deal breaker for me. What do you think a person on a date in a public place is gonna do to you?

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      15 hours ago

      right, this is basically saying “i don’t trust you not to spike my drink, take me to a second location, and rape me”

      and maybe you shouldn’t be online dating at all if that’s where you start out from

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        31 minutes ago

        Why should they trust some random dude they met on a dating app?

        You act like that’s some crazy fear, but it happens all the fucking time.

        If you’re that dismissive of other people’s concerns, maybe you shouldn’t be online dating at all.

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        14 hours ago

        But even then, no one needs to ask you out on a date to do that. Any time you go out in public by yourself that could happen just as easily. If you’re that unreasonably fearful then i don’t want to spend time with you

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          33 minutes ago

          Most women don’t make a habit of going out to bars alone, for good reason. It’s a very real risk.

          As a guy who’s been roofied (presumably by accident, still don’t know what happened) I sure as hell don’t blame them.