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Cake day: August 2nd, 2023

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  • Love does not require vulnerability in any shared sense. It can absolutely exist without it. I would argue that a relationship isn’t very healthy without some concept of shared vulnerability but love isn’t a relationship and a relationship isn’t love.

    Many relationships are purely based on a concept of “I know what my partner is thinking/feeling” when nothing is shared. There are many connections that just work, for various reasons.

    I’m nearing 50 and didn’t even know what vulnerability actually was (I had a concept but not an experience. I didn’t know what I didn’t know) until my early 40’s. And I’m still shit at vulnerability and have roughly as much experience with using a Bat’leth in combat as I do being vulnerable. But believe me, I’ve been in love many times.









  • This was a pretty new Dodge Hornet. Now, I’ve been a long–time Dodge hater. For many reasons. But I’m strongly guessing that they’re worse than almost anyone else in the digital realm. It got terrible fuel economy (as all Dodge/Jeep/Chrysler vehicles do) but it was an ineffective hybrid so it also had a tiny fuel tank for that bad mileage. If you can’t get a realistic 400 mile journey in a go, there’s no reason to have a gas engine at all. And I was maybe getting 260 miles between fill ups. Also, I couldn’t get into the fucking thing. So, it’s a Dodge Hornet but it’s really a crossover SUV or whatever they want to call them. In effect, quite a large vehicle. But the entryway was so full of plastic I had to move the seat well back from my driving position to get into it. And even then, I almost always hit my head. All those complaints aside, I have driven a Nissan (which, also, not the biggest fan) but it did have really solid ACC. So I’m guessing the ACC panic in the Dodge was just a Dodge thing or specific to that vehicle. When I got to the coast, I ran it through the car wash and then went and made sure all of the sensors were clean. It still did it again on the trip home with even less reason to freak out (to my knowledge and intuition on the system) but also in a much safer situation.



  • I almost got very messed up in a rental car using that. I was on a fairly tight winding road just West of Klamath Falls in Oregon. There was a concrete barrier median, the roadway, while fast was very 3 dimensional. I was overtaking a logging truck to my right with afternoon sun creating a ton of broken light (really pretty honestly). But the adaptive cruise got messed up with everything going on and did a hard braking when I absolutely didn’t expect and was very much not convenient to keep control. The brakes were worn so it tried to dive to the right, toward the semi. It was very memorable.




  • Most of my staples have been mentioned, but I want to give a shout out to Food Wishes, America’s Test Kitchen and That Dude Can Cook, Chef Jean-Pierre. Been cooking staples for years now. Also, Hey Grill Hey but it’s younger.

    For drinks, How To Drink (though I feel they’ve been chasing algorithms and losing focus and soul), City-Steady Brewing, Cocktail Chemistry and Cocktail Time with Kevin Kos.

    For politics, I go to Parkrose Permaculture and Farm to Taber. Both excellent and insightful even if I’m not always in full agreement.

    For woodworking, it’s StumpyNubs, Blacktail Studio (highly recommend even if you’re not into woodworking), The Wood Whisperer. Lincoln Street Woodworking is newer but I still enjoy it.

    I’m a car guy and honestly this space has become dismal. I watch Stay Tuned every Friday or weekend at least. I voted my conscience and unsubbed from Matt’s Offroading, Rat Rod Racing, Robby Layton and all of the Utahbers. While I can’t be certain I’m guessing they all voted for Trump and I just can’t support that shit. Oh and I really enjoy Regular Car Reviews