Old US person here, we used to call it Peking too. I think (haven’t looked it up, but it was what I was told at the time we changed it) it’s a less-accurate version from Westerners who didn’t really listen or asked the wrong person, and Beijing is closer to how the people who live there pronounce it.
I understand the gut-level aspect, even though for me it’s the yucky feeling of bare feet on wood or tile floors. No carpet or rugs in our place, it’s easier for the wheelchair. Which by the way can’t change its wheels when coming in. I tried outdoor shoes but they were disgusting in a week. I’m trying out a habit of stepping barefoot into the room, (from the balcony) picking up my shoes and clapping them outside before putting them back on, rubbing each already-dusty-feeling foot on my leg as I do. We shall see. I’m terrible at consistency.
I live in LA by the 405 so probably.
… because she’s in bed with you
By the time I get to my apartment any dust I picked up outdoors (Los Angeles, little mud and no snow) has been lost to the hallway carpet. Meanwhile road grime blows in through every air gap, and the great majority of household dust is generated by indoor life, whether it’s the detritus of our own skin, lint from fabrics, particles of paper, cooking vapors, asthma nebulizer, and even cleaning products. What has made the most difference is using a MERV13 filter in my HVAC and keeping the doors and windows shut except when I go out to my balcony garden to tend to my plants.
I’ve tried it but I could’t keep track of which was which, especially when I go out one door, across the big balcony (10 meters) and in the other door, to a different room, which would have another “outdoor” pair but no “indoor” pair sitting there. I would have to put down the watering can, go back around the other way, and back around through the apartment.
I also noticed no difference in floor dirt when I was trying to be strict about it. So it seemed like a lot of attention paid for no payoff, and I stopped.
Huh. 8 can’t wear crocs, they mess up my plantar fascia. The shoes I wear 98%of the time are a version of these sparkly Skechers, with great arch support: https://theflipflopzone.com/products/119631-vinyasa-happy-spring
It feels very impersonal, which is probably because/why it’s used so often by detectives investigating deaths. There’s a noncommittal “… but yes you’re a suspect, and where were you at 7:22 pm last night?” that goes with it. I’m sorry for your loss, but what did you gain?
As a human talking to a friend you can probably do better. But think it out and practice it beforehand, because saying something, anything, is better than getting tongue-tied and saying nothing. Or worse, avoiding them altogether.
Nah, if anything the store clerk is envying your dinosaur toys. I know I am.
It’s the Met Gala, they could totally show up with full pit and crotch forestry to make that statement.
If you don’t like the idea of saying “I’m sorry for your loss” because it feels like apologizing for something you didn’t do, you can use the classy and traditional “My deepest condolences on the loss of your…”
And it’s a legit question, no hate generated.
I have tried the “no shoes inside” thing and can’t stand the constant feeling of dirt particles on my bare feet even while I’m walking on the floor behind a swiffer, broom, or mop. I’d rather keep my shoes on and just assume the floor is not 100% clean even when someone has just cleaned it.
But I have a logistics question: I know you have a place for shoes by the front door, but what do you do about the back door? Or in my case the three sliding-glass doors onto balconies that I use daily? Is one supposed to keep going to the front door to get shoes and carrying them through the house? My balconies overhang the street and get a lot of road grime, plus my plants drop leaves etc., so shoes are very necessary out there. And many people have back yards. I’m curious about what you do.
You should not have to be ill or have to explain why you need to take a day off. Just have sufficient undesignated PTO to maintain good mental and physical health.
Agreeing about universal healthcare but adding sufficient PTO to go to the Dr.
Please Lord, take him. And his shitty boss. Do what You will with them, but take them.
That’s also an option
No, something like this, (I picked one at random) so easy to upgrade your boring head-down shower. Aim the warm water exactly where you want it, get everyone’s bits nice and clean.
https://www.lowes.com/pd/Moen-Attune-Chrome-Handheld-Shower-Head-1-75-GPM-6-6-LPM/5015066185
If you’re doing anything in your bed other than sleeping, you may need to shower and change your sheets more often.
And if you shower and change your sheets more often, you might increase the chances you’ll be doing more in your bed than sleeping.
I will also suggest having a lidded trashcan in the bathroom, and a hand shower.
A Peking duck?