• Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
    692·
    7 months ago

    OP’s first mistake was thinking they could find a picture of typical female bullying. Boy bullies may use their physical force, but most girl bullies use psychological force. They use words to tear into you, they manipulate people with lies about you, they create drama that drives friendships apart and socially isolates their target. There are no physical bruises to show for it, all the planning takes place inside their heads, and the closest thing to “evidence” is boiled down to “she said/she said.” If she’s got more friends to back up her lies (and she does, because she socially isolated you) she could easily turn the tables and accuse you of starting shit with her. And she will be believed. Because she’s done it before - character assassination is her specialty, and she’s targeted you enough that school admin prejudicially expects you to lie.

    Anyway, you’re probably not going to find a picture of that. Even if you do, you likely won’t recognize it as “bullying” because it’ll just look like girls talking.

      • gerryflap@feddit.nl
        10·
        7 months ago

        Yeah exactly. I’ve been on the receiving end on of (male) bullying quite a bit and also haven’t always been nice to others myself in order to try and fit in. I can only remember one physical incident in all those years. That guy was the classic “movie” bully, just an asshole terrorizing everyone around him, so naturally I decided that something had to be done (it did not go well). Other than that it was all psychological. “Friends” that started saying mean things the moment they were around people they looked up to.

        Something that makes it a bit more difficult is also that bullying in these cases was often not black and white. The line between friendly teasing and psychological bullying was often quite thin. In hindsight I interpreted a lot of teasing jokes as bullying because I took everything literally and was very protective of my stuff. That doesn’t excuse them because it was very clear that it hurt me, but it’s interesting that some of those interactions now have become regular interactions between me and my friends that both sides clearly enjoy.

    • JackbyDev@programming.devEnglish
      13·
      7 months ago

      Anyway, you’re probably not going to find a picture of that.

      When I search “female bullying” images on ddg mostly show this. I thought the second image captured it pretty well.

      One girl whispers into the ear of another girl who is laughing and looking at her phone. In the background a third girl looks sad.

      The fifth result does too.

      A girl looks sad in the foreground with two girls looking towards her and smiling, they are out of focus.

      This one really captures the “just looks like talking” aspect you mention because it doesn’t show the victim looking dramatically sad nor the bullies looking especially excited.

      A girl reads a book as another duo of girls look at her disdainfully.

    • Demdaru@lemmy.world
      35·
      7 months ago

      I’ve seen girls trying “boy bullying”.

      On boys.

      Mostly ends quickly, and girl loses twice (got hit and dissapointed teachers).

      Boys have “bouys will be boys” acting as a shield xD

      • Frostbeard@lemmy.world
        20·
        7 months ago

        Polish photographer i seem to remember. Used these models in several pictures. Never outright erotica, but certainly having that vibe

        • burntbacon@discuss.tchncs.de
          5·
          7 months ago

          Really? For some reason I had thought it was a part of a strange russian porno. I recall someone watching it and saying it was rather boring aside from the one meme picture. Could I be misremembering such a huge and important part of my childhood!?!?? aaaaah.

          origins, if anyone cares: https://www.instagram.com/p/Bcu0_sagc9j/

          • Frostbeard@lemmy.world
            1·
            7 months ago

            That’s the photographer I thought of. Russian it seems, not Polish.

            But that strange Russian porn you mentioned…

      • JackbyDev@programming.devEnglish
        12·
        7 months ago

        Me: Showing off my collection of women holding other women’s hair and forcing them to drink milk WHAT DO YOU MEAN KINK RELATED!?

    • bampop@lemmy.world
      14·
      7 months ago

      It looks like they are about to tear each others clothes off in a glorious 10 minute single take. You think she’s got 5 shirts on? Those are just the ones you can see now!

    • JackbyDev@programming.devEnglish
      9·
      7 months ago

      Bullying can be a fetish, so yeah, I can see why it would feel like that. It’s amazing what can be fun when you do it in a safe space with consent and safe words amongst trusted people.

    • 14th_cylon@lemmy.zip
      7·
      7 months ago

      They look 30, I think that’s just assault.

      every physical bullying is an assault, the age is really not relevant to determine that.

  • BigDanishGuy@sh.itjust.works
    301·
    7 months ago

    Sooo if I put on 5 under shirts 4 hot chicks will press me against their breasts and softly strangle me? I knew I did it wrong in high school

    • ours@lemmy.worldEnglish
      1·
      7 months ago

      Why did I stop at only 4 shirts?!

      I knew something was wrong but to be so close to greatness and fail…

  • Akasazh@feddit.nl
    14·
    7 months ago

    She was obviously trying to cheat at the game of strip poker they were playing later on that evening.

  • debil@lemmy.world
    131·
    7 months ago

    something between p<insert grey smut here>rn and baroque

    The world is beyond fucked.

    • prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      7·
      7 months ago

      Thanks for this, they were very successful with their censoring, and I had no idea what they were trying to say.