My son has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He’s in his mid-twenties, so it’s the average time for onset of bipolar disorder. No family history that we know of, but if it was just two generations back, it probably wouldn’t have been talked about.
He had his first manic episode early in the year. He spent a brief time in in-patient treatment, followed by a period of out-patient treatment. During the out-patient treatment, his psychiatrist started to think the diagnosis was incorrect and she weaned him off his meds.
He has had another manic episode, and he’s back in the in-patient facility. Luckily he was able to get back into the same place he was in before, so they aren’t starting from zero. They started him back on different meds, and he’s much better much faster than the first time.
His fiancee was talking to a friend and someone overheard. The person who overheard said her mother was bipolar and she had to take her to the hospital six times, and she told his fiancee that she should break up with him.
The only experts I’ve spoken to have been the doctors in the crisis center, and I don’t know to what degree they are trying to sugar coat things to prevent us from giving up hope.
I’d rather know the reality.
If anyone has any personal experience they can share, I’d appreciate it. If anyone has any professional experience they can share, I’d appreciate that as well.
EDIT: Just wanted to add to this that we were able to visit him today, and he’s doing very well.
Hi, I’m currently engaged to a wonderful man who I love very much. He is diagnosed with both ADHD and bipolar disorder, and has been since he was a kid. He’s had a long time for him and his doctor to experiment with which medications work well for him and get him stable, and so, to be very honest, I don’t think I really notice much of anything that I attribute to his bipolar. If he had never told me about it and had only mentioned his ADHD, I don’t think I would have ever known.
I’ll admit that I don’t know very much about bipolar, so it’s very possible that maybe my fiance is lower on the “spectrum” (if one exists - I personally have depression and autism so this is where my first hand experience lies) than your son, but like you mentioned, your son is early in his journey compared to where my fiance is at. But I want you to know that there is definitely hope, especially with parents who love and care for him - and you must, since you’re here asking about him.
If this is your first experience with mental health care, it might be advantageous to research groups in your area for help. For instance, in my area there’s NAMI, which was a big help for my fiance’s mother when he got his diagnosis.
If you’d like to ask more questions about my experience, feel free to shoot them my way!
Thank you for your response. It is very helpful.
I’ve been hopeful because my son has shown that he wants treatment.
When he was weaned off his meds, we all latched onto the idea that the diagnosis was wrong, and I think we missed red flags because we didn’t want to see them. I don’t think we have to feel guilty about that, but we have now gone back to accepting the reality and we know we have to pay closer attention.
I do think that medication is key, and luckily my fiance is very dedicated to taking his pills diligently. If your son is seeking treatment, then that’s a great step in the right direction. And with your support, I think he will definitely be on the right path. Best of luck! I’ll be rooting for him and you :)