• Rob T Firefly@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    They may not be becoming someone so different, though. Generally speaking, if someone only seems like an asshole when they’re drunk they’re probably just as much of an asshole when they’re sober, just better at masking it.

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      No idea why this is such a common belief. If you’re masking being a belligerent cunt, then you’re not being a beligerent cunt. The only people whose behaviour I trust are those who care about their behaviour being as such - at least you know they’re fucking trying

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        If someone gets drunk and calls me a slur, I’m going to believe that even when they’re sober and acting polite they’re inwardly thinking that slur about me. That is enough to make them someone I’m not going to be inclined to trust.

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          Yeah ok fine this is a pretty contentious point and you make the other side well. I was thinking more ‘being aggressive’ and such rather than ‘revealing bigotism’.