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VirusMaster3073@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world · 28 days ago

What were you surprised to learn wasn't actually normal?

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What were you surprised to learn wasn't actually normal?

VirusMaster3073@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world · 28 days ago
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    I grew up thinking it was normal for grown men to be attracted to little girls. My mother had a habit of pointing out random men who just happened to be around and telling me they were staring at me/thinking about how beautiful I was/in love with my/trying to look up my skirt. The way she talked about it made it seem like it was a common, acceptable thing.

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      What, and I cannot emphasize this enough, the fuck

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        26 days ago

        I think she had undiagnosed mental issues, tbh.

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      I hope things are better for you now x

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        Yeah, I realized as an adult that most grown men actually aren’t interested in kids.

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      As a man, I was worried about that growing up, but the women I’m attracted to has aged with me. I’m friends with some women under 30 from the dog park, and I can appreciate they’re pretty but they also look like kids. I hope they meet nice guys around their age.

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      So it wasn’t just my mom.

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        I really wonder where they got this from! Strangely enough, when I was a teen and actually starting to get inappropriate attention from men, she would never believe that it happened.

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      holy crap I hope you got out of that situation quick, this should NOT be normalized

      My heart breaks for you in this

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        I distanced myself from her after college. Her behavior was unacceptable in a lot of ways, and she wasn’t willing to change. Thanks for the kind words.

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      26 days ago

      My mother

      …WAT…

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      What in the fuck 🤮

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      It was not your fault. <3

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        Thanks.

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