Edit: LOL love the responses. You ain’t wrong…
Edit2: I posted this for giggles and have enjoyed it immensely. Thanks for the “parenting advice” (rolls eyes). My daughter is a shit show, but I wouldn’t trade her in for anything. She has three daughters, one of which is exactly like her and the two others are not. So…
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Bad parenting
It’s your fault, accept the shame and teach her.
I wouldn’t put it that bluntly… but yeah. OP you can’t shame your child for not knowing something you should have taught her. Teach her, kindly, explaining why things are done a specific way.
Kindly.
I try to help my gf but she gets insanely annoyed at me
You can easily diffuse that situation by hanging a tea towel around her shoulders like a cape and saying “look, now you’re Super Angry”
Try explaining it very slowly while raising your eyebrows and carefully enunciating.
Shame 🔔🔔🔔
To the shame corner with them!
It’s your fault, time for the late-term abortion
ftfy
Just to be clear it is called a post birth abortion and its really only ethical if they are 10 or less
She loaded it, but poorly. Which is a vast improvement on my wifes not loading it at all.
Ah, your wife has discovered the system at our house- let the dishes pile up in the sink until someone can’t take it anymore.
Are you me?
That depends, is nobody else in your house capable of carrying a bag out to the bin or breaking down a box before it goes in the recycling?
Pretty much! Unless I prod to the point of starting a fight.
Sir/maam, you’ve raised a Psychopath.
This thread is full of clearly basement dwelling non parents. So many AKctually it hurts from laughing.
But who taught her to load the dish washer?
Every time my dad has something to say about me I say that.
Who was responsible for raising me again? YOU WERE, you judgemental turd.
Nice! And when you grow up you can use the same excuse when beating up your wife. “Look at what YOU made me do!” Remember kids, it’s aways somebody else’s fault 👍
Funfact: domestic abuse is strongly tied to a previous history of abuse, or simply put, the perpetrators learned to do it while they were the victims, often from their parents.
And in a society where mental health access is practically nonexistent, there aren’t many ways for someone to break the cycle. I guess pretending it’s just a personal failure instead of a societal one is nice because it eliminates any burden on oneself.
She’s from group B. Group A loads correctly. Group B does this stuff on purpose so we in group A will just stop letting them screw this up and they no longer have to load it.
There’s also group C which I was part of, you just say that you just pooped or scratch your butt whenever they ask you to load/unload and they’ll immediately offer to do that for you instead.
This honestly looks fine. (Assuming this is before the dishwasher has run). There’s not like solid chunks of food or anything just the actual stuff that you own a dishwasher to wash off for you so you don’t have to. The configuration of the dishes is haphazard and chaotic but if you want to fit a lot of dishes it usually ends up that way. The cup and cup like vessels not being upside down is a problem but for the most part things are upside down or on their side as they should be. I want the dishwasher to wash dishes for me not the other way around. If you get the occasional dish after a cycle that hasn’t completely cleaned you have to wash it yourself, which sucks, but that doesn’t always happen so there’s a reasonable chance you won’t have to, and when it does happen, it’s still way cleaner than it was so you’re talking a cursory fix up of very few dishes. I’d take that over rinsing each and every one every time or having to hand wash half the load when there’s a lot of dishes in service of a neater stacking configuration that’s optimal but less space efficient.
The problem is that ceramic and glass dishes often chip if they are in contact with each other in the dishwasher.
Do you have a dishwasher or a rock tumbler at home?
Yes.
Ahh yes, the inclusive or. We meet again!
These are the kinds of people who go on the Internet and claim that dishwashers don’t work very well.
When I was 23 I moved into a sharehouse that had a dishwasher, I lived there over a year before I saw it, it had a false cabinet so it blended in. I’d always just washed my dishes in the sink and I keep all my dishes, cutlery and pans separate in a tub in the pantry because I have allergies. I’d never used a dishwasher before.
I googled how to use a dishwasher because I didn’t want to be the 20 year old that can’t do basic chores. I read the user manual and looked for the filters and catchment drains. They were filthy so I cleaned them, then followed the stacking guide in the user manual and ran it with a full load of my housemates dishes.
I was very impressed with how clean they came out.
I mentioned it to a housemate who found it very amusing I’d only just discovered the dishwasher, he warned me that it was old and broken and not a very good dishwasher so the few housemates that use it were actually talking about splitting the cost of a replacement if I wanted to get in on it.
Why? When the dishwasher was working perfectly.
All 7 of my housemates flooded into the kitchen to assess the cleanliness of the dishes because no one believed me that the dishwasher worked.
Turns out in the 7 years the house had been used for student housing since the landlords son took over as head tenant, not a single one of the rotating cast of 8 housemates had ever cleaned the secondary catchment filter, and only rarely did someone remember to clean the main filter.
Turns out the dishwasher works great when you remove the months worth of old rotten corn building up in the filter, and drain off the 7 years of muck that’s blocking the greywater outlet flow.
My housemates will still say I stack the dishwasher like a sociopath, but I learned from the user manual so I don’t care, the dishes are clean.
Why are you on Lemmy asking children for parenting advice? Seems like most responses are blaming you as if an adult needs to be taught something as rudimentary as loading a dishwasher. Simple solution, box up all the plates, cups, silverware. Replace with disposable stuff
I don’t think you need to parent an adult child.
Many dishwashers will clean all of that fine, in my experience. The annoying part is the cups or bowls that may fill with water, just make sure they’re upside down.
As far as scraping or rinsing things…. Nah. Haven’t done it since I worked in food service and saw what dishwashers could do. Some stuff needs scraped, sure, but most will come off under the detergent and hot water.
People don’t know how to use dishwashers. What’s the point of using a dishwasher if you’re going to clean the dishes beforehand…
It’s not necessarily washing them first, but I do get the “chunks” out. As the only person in the house who remembers that the food doesn’t just magically disappear, and eventually has to clean the filter, I prefer to do the cleaning before the food gets to the filter. Everyone else, on the other hand, seems perfectly content to put a half-full bowl of spaghetti in the dishwasher.
My daughter is not an adult, she’s a teenager. But it’s her job to put away the dishes. And no matter what I do, she can’t understand that, in the silverware drawer, THE BIG SPOONS GO IN THE BIG SPOON SLOT AND THE LITTLE SPOONS GO IN THE LITTLE SPOON SLOT!
And she thinks this is acceptable.
I understand the compulsion to disown.
I swear, the people obsessed with enforcing one right way to do… everything.
It looks exhausting. I feel kind of bad for them and when they start rearranging other people’s work I always think of this sad lil raccoon for some reason:
There are correct and incorrect ways to load a dishwasher. Mainly allowing for water to be able to reach all surfaces and drain away from the objects.
Take a closer look. There are multiple instances in those photos that show that those two simple conditions aren’t met.
Engage that brain you claim to have.
They’re pre-rinsed and clean enough.
If it makes you happy though, awesome!
Pre rinsing actually makes the dishwasher do a worse job, a big part of the dishwasher detergent is to latch on to dirt and grime so when the water sprayer comes it can more easily clean it off
If you prerinse there’s a lot less surface area for the detergent to do it’s job
Arranging dishes in the dishwasher neatly is only for when there are a lot of dishes that wouldn’t fit otherwise. If there are only a couple of dishes, then it’s whatever, as long as they get clean, it doesn’t matter.
I would encourage you to be more considerate: your daughter is an adult, with her own thoughts and feelings, and her own family. If I were her, I would certainly not appreciate if one of my parent tried to shame me in front of strangers on the Internet over how I load my dishes and threatening to disown me for it, even “as a joke”.
Don’t blame the parent… Kids don’t do anything when they know someone else will fix it for them.
Once I moved out, I magically had to do everything myself, and my parents were shocked that I actually kept my house clean, lol
Don’t blame the parent… Kids don’t do anything when they know someone else will fix it for them.
I will blame the parent because its the parent who usually fixes it for them.
Parents want to show their kid what’s wrong, and want to keep their own sanity and house clean.
Clearly they didn’t do a good job. Instead of showing them what’s wrong, show them what’s right.
+1 on this one
Edit: you being downvoted tells me there’s a group of people who haven’t seen adult children revert to child when visiting their childhood home…
