My last 2 weeks have been a bit rough:
first there was an insurance issue I am still dealing with because my employer failed to submit relevant information on time. Payment will be effective only after employer submits correct information.
Then my employer claimed that someone had seen me using my cell phone while at work (theoretically, that’s not allowed, but everyone checks the time now and then, and normally it doesn’t affect the quality of the work). They claimed this happened eight weeks ago. I simply replied that I couldn’t remember anything like that.
This week I received a ticket from the transportation authority, where they claim I boarded a ship without a valid ticket, something I am appealing. I’ve never done this before but my friends are helping me. It’s not so much about the amount as it is about the feeling of being trampled on. I even showed the employee a copy of my ticket I had on my phone with my whole name, address and price I paid, but he ignored it. I already sent my side of the story to the authority and I’m waiting for an answer.
The thought of being forced to pay for a ticket I paid and showed as a copy of weighs heavily on me. I know I shouldn’t give it more importance that it deserves, but they way that employee treated me, the employee ignoring me, my explanations and the copy I had on my phone gives me an eerie feeling of injustice, that something is broken. I’ve been using that boat for 5 years and never had such an issue before.
If you are more resilient than me, how? I feel lost and as much as I’d like to forget about it I flash back to it, I cannot concentrate and I’m not sleeping very well.
I’d like to be stronger but I’m not.
If the objective truth is on your side, then you have nothing to worry about.
If you in fact weren’t slacking off at work, then it doesn’t matter what someone thinks they saw 2 whole months ago.
If you in fact bought a ticket for the boat, and you have ways to prove it, then nobody can force you to pay again.
Anxiety happens, to some more than others, and some situations can be very triggering and aggravating. But it can help to remind yourself that the facts are on your side and that the worst outcome is not very likely and not too bad.
With that said, if you find anxiety is a constant problem, then you might want to talk to a therapist about that, because brain chemistry can also be a factor.
I agree completely on this for anxiety. It’s helpful to keep this and similar perspectives: It’s not that I’m bad for not explaining it properly in the way that a hostile employer is satisfied with, instead it’s a hostile employer that views anxiety as a benefit to their power over you and is refusing to level with you or admit they could also be wrong. The lack of recourse or proof* is not you failing to earn it, it’s their failure to afford you what is common decency. You didn’t make a mistake, you weren’t nefarious, so if they won’t see that then it’s entirely a them issue.
Perspective is extremely important with mental traps.
Edit: typo