I’ll start.

We had great chemistry but different goals. She was religious and looking to marry and thought she could change me, a non-religious person who intends to remain unmarried and childless. I was up front about the lack of religion and the lack of desire for marriage. She was not up front about her intent to change me.

After two months of regular flings she told me we couldn’t see each other anymore, because she wanted someone to go to church with, it was my fault she was living a sinful life (totally), and she was cheating on me with another dude was a Christian.

    • ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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      4 天前

      That’s what people are telling me, but it just doesn’t feel right. I’m not sure how to explain - it’s not that I think I could only ever have loved my ex, but rather that when I get lonely (and I do a lot) I always focus on the past and mistakes I made. I don’t seem to have anything in me that’s forward-looking and open to new things. It’s a little like how I feel about getting a new dog, now that I think about it. After my dog died three years ago, I really expected that I would mourn and then get another one, but while I really miss having a dog, I find that I don’t want a new dog. It feels like the tree was cut down but the stump is still there and there’s no room for something else to grow, so to speak.