Asking because I just sat through a family feud within earshot at a local coffee joint. Parents giving advice to son, who looked 30ish, all quite civil, full of the ‘can I speak for a minute’, ‘your minute is up’ and so on, with some ‘when we were your age’ and ‘you must/ will learn’ etc. Mum ended with ‘i don’t have to justify anything to you’.
My dad stopped once I got out of high school, but mum seems to chime in from time to time. I’m well into my middle age.
When should parents stop parenting and just let the kid fail/ thrive on their own? I just feel sometimes the parents are the problem, regardless of good intentions.
I’m close to retirement and my Mom regularly tells me I shouldn’t drink a beer after work so often because I might “turn into an alcoholic” 🙂 When I point out that I’ve been doing that for decades and I’m still not an alcoholic, she says “Oh yeah, you’re all grown up now I guess…”
You’ll always be your parents’ baby boy or girl. They’ll stop being overly protective and giving advice to you when they pass away, and then you’ll miss it.
Hmmmmmmm 🤔
While definitions vary, and a medical definition would typically include something about effects on one’s life and general health rather than just a quantity drunk, “a beer after work” every day would not typically qualify as alcoholism. For example, the USDA’s thresholds are one drink per day for women, or two for men.
My mum in a nutshell. Love her though.