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  • From myself: I have two kids, and I’ve said harsh things to them a few times (I am sometimes too emotional and impulsive - I can scream something I will regret later in a middle of an argument). Talking helps, it really does, as I feel that me and my kids - “we’re good”.
    I think it’s important to do a full analysis of what happened, with them:

    • an apology: “whatever were the reasons, you are hurt, and you shouldn’t be hurt”
    • I did it because I was said/angry about this and that. Not in a “defense mode” (see previous bullet point, I am not saying I’m right), but just to explain that some people get sad or angry, and say shit, as I did
      It becomes clear what I did wrong, why (helps if they want to see how they could do better, but I’m not emphasizing they need to correct themselves - that would be victim blaming) but that I love them. And the very conversation shows how we can talk about our issues in general.



  • In this exact case you will be washed away with a wave of homophoby. Because in Russia, many people with otherwise sane and non-destructive views are still homophobic. To compare with some other country, I would say it’s something like in Turkey.
    So if I was trying to improve Russian society through “good kind of propaganda”(not sure it’s a thing), I would start from something else, and not from this problematic topic. Otherwise if will be generally harder to find wide support.
    And when I’m thinking of that, homophobia in Russia is just a result of people “worrying too much about other people’s shit” - everyone knows how you should or shouldn’t live, and ready to tell you about it. So if you work on that in general, that would help.