(FYI: this is divorcées attempting to date)

Went on my 1st date after divorce. Sat down together at a café. After greeting each other, she immediately asks “So when do you intend to move to my town?”. I reply by saying “Whoa! Take it slow. Let’s get to know each other first!” and feeling that she can’t be serious about her question.

She, however, explodes in my face that she has a life and a kid in that other town and no time to waste. I managed to reply that I have a life and kids in this current town we’re in, too, before she jumps up and storms away cursing.

Not the most conducive first post-marital dating experience.

+1 on this. Hiker+Trail-Runner here. So I sometimes encounter cows on high mountain passes where taking a detour can mean hours of delay. But after getting kicked like that once, I am very careful around herds, esp. when they have young ones / horns (as they often do grassing on mountains) / bulls in the mix.

In no particular order:

• Finally do those after-class reading + tutoring sessions for kids in my daughter’s school.
• Sign up for shifts on the “Good-Night-Bus” in my local town that looks after homeless people during night-time.
• Play hand-pan, guitar & other random instruments at local relaxation spots to add to the overall atmosphere of “the good life”
• regularly offer my handymen skills to my neighborhood via local web-platform and also contribute to “Repair-Cafés” as a helping hand
• Find a local community-garden project to help out at so that the city stays 0.1% greener than without me
• Offer my yet-currently-relevant professional skills (Frontend / WebPerf / CDNs / DevOps) to a NGO that couldn’t usually afford my wages (again: preferably something relevant to my region to feel a sense of impact)
• Keep maintaining my OpenSource repositories and publish new ideas ASAP to prevent Software Patents