Usually meant to increase the degree to which I’m being absurd or facetious. It’s a manner of showing contempt for the thing I’m describing. I use it to joke more than with actual dialog.

But “kinda” probably happens in my daily vocabulary to such a degree that I’m unaware how much I use it. So, despite using this sort of word deliberately in certain situations, I’m also very guilty of using it everywhere else.

One of our kitties comes over any time someone is sad or sick or hurt. I can’t remember the last time she cheered for ICE killing a civilian, so I think this checks out.

“It’s mah right.”

Are you seriously gonna come in here and pretend that Jesus didn’t say “fuck immigrants”? Cause that’s the message they remember. “In fact,” he said, “anyone you don’t like, too.” It’s right there in the bible. Look it up.

Like when the Dixie Chicks roasted their careers criticizing a war that chud got elected by criticizing. We’re among very stupid, thoughtless people. And they vote.

Fortunately, my male friendships were formed through shared experiences at difficult workplaces. I feel like only a percentage of workplaces are conducive to this type of bonding. Working front line tech support is one of the places where that can happen but also I’ve just been fortunate to have been adjacent to some great people when those situations arose.

I barely chat with my long ago male friends; we live in different regions and while we used to talk on the phone a lot, now it like once or twice a year. But I’ve got new long-haul friends from said workplaces and though we we only get together maybe every month or three, it’s in person and that goes a long way.

I hope you keep at looking. Loneliness is a terrible feeling. I was utterly lonely for a lot of my life and it’s very hard.I don’t wish that for anyone except for the hateful bigots that need to be shunned to tell them their views, words, and actions are not acceptable.

Pray harder. Prayers are like bullet proof vests for children. Conservatives have been trying to convince us of this for years.

Go to therapy and work on yourself deliberately for years and years. It works. I was super messed up and hateful and angry and I would never have believed that I could love myself, but I do.

I know “cheat code” implies quick or easy or both and this isn’t either one, but it’s life changing if you do it.

On a first date, someone said I was so incredibly polite. I was like, all I do is say please and thank you because my mother taught me it’s the right thing to do. She was responding to my placing an order at a coffee shop.

I’m telling you, this works. Each day, pause to think of three things for which you are grateful. It can be big or small. Examples that I’ve used: that I got to spend the evening with a close friend who has a typically busy schedule, that I slept especially well the night before, that the book I was reading turned out to be a good one, etc.

Sometimes it’s something profound about how someone positively mentored me when I was younger. Or small stuff like knowing that there’s a piece of cheesecake waiting for me in the fridge. The point is to do it every day. It’s kinda awkward getting going, but then it becomes second nature and they come to mind effortlessly. I am convinced that it’s made me a calmer, nicer, more understanding person.

Ten year old me would have looked at that image every day.

Check out the coffee table book, All Yesterdays. It’s half reinterpretations of known fossils, half artist renderings of contemporary animals based only on their skeletons. We’re obviously misinterpreting a lot of creatures going just off their skeletons and we’ll never know how they really appeared.

As I recall, this is from the skeleton of a contemporary species of monkey, as an example:

Every time. And I’m halfway through life. I could do a web search, but who ever thinks of that except when this happens? Will I do a web search now? No. I have other stuff to think about. And so it goes.

Why would I ever wish I didn’t care about integrity and caring for others?

Oh, that speaks to me.

Well, the good news is that I can uproot my life and business with basically no repercussions, so yeah, I’ll do that immediately.

I mean, I support Ukraine, but I certainly don’t trust them to quote him accurately. Doesn’t mean that he doesn’t think so.

If you take away their right to break the law, how will you become the next trillionaire?! - Stupid right wing people

The greatest gift of my career was getting old enough to not care.

It’s why I stopped buying milk.