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Cake day: June 23rd, 2023

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  • There is a difference between giving some a gift you know they don’t like and giving someone a gift that they don’t like. It’s literally the thought that counts, and as someone who has been married a long time, it’s important to place the thought first and the gift a distant second.

    If (when) I get another tie for Father’s Day, I won’t necessarily like, want, or need it, but I will still cherish and appreciate it. It’s nice to get things you like, but it’s much nicer to be loved and appreciated.





  • I think it’s that #believeallwomen is a hard hill to die on. Any internet troll is a Google search away from proof that you shouldn’t blindly believe all women. It just reminds me of when Joe Biden had some allegations against him, and he got caught between a rock and a hard place: believe all women, just not this one.

    Instead of belief, it’s about respect. Whether true or not, any accusation should be taken seriously and avoid sensationalism. It’s also about understanding your role. It’s easy for me to say all of this about a situation thousands of miles away; I have an infinitely small role. If it happens closer to home, to someone you know, belief may be a part of that role, but it still needs to come from a place of respect and understand of the situation. If religion is any example, blind belief doesn’t help anything but fuel division.






  • I think the rationalization of shitty behavior is key. Everyone is the hero of their own story, and there is no end to the mental gymnastics or cognitive dissonance people will go through to remain the hero.

    It’s almost Occam’s Razor. It’s easier to believe someone is a selfish hypocrite than some kind of moral-less grifter.

    That’s not to say there aren’t grifters, just that the vast majority have drunk the kool-aid and keep drinking it because of a warped sunk-cost fallacy scenario. If I stop drinking, I have to admit I was bad and wrong, so I double down and stay the good guy.





  • it’s the same goddamn cycle over and over

    This is the key. The people you can trust are the people who are going against that cycle.

    Bringing up the Bible on Lemmy is generally a no-no, but I love Ecclesiastes. It’s a book about meaninglessness. Everything is the same as it has always been and there is nothing of true value; everything is meaningless. It’s the same goddamn cycle. While when it was written is debatable, it’s comforting and horrible to know someone thousands of years ago saw things the same way I do. Comforting, because I’m not alone in how I feel. Horrible in that people still feel this way after thousands of years.

    The writer’s conclusion is to fear God and keep his commandments. The commandment is to love your neighbor as yourself. Loving your neighbor as yourself means being kind and empathetic. Kindness and empathy solve nearly everything.

    So, even though it may achieve nothing, be kind and empathetic. Cling to people who are kind and empathetic. Be an oasis amid the hate.