Am I supposed to tell them I really really wanna kms right now?

Yes. If you don’t, they can’t help you.

Nah, they’d lock me up lmfao

Not if you are honest about it. Talking openly about it instead of just doing it is a good sign that you might be ready to fix stuff.

Can’t even tell my mom cuz she’d get mad at me…

That’s not normal and not healthy. Tell your therapist. They might be able to find a way to get you out of an unhealthy environment, at least for a while.

Not me but someone close to me:

• There is a difference between “ready for therapy” and “ready for change”. Some people will sit in therapy for years but never see much progress because they are so stuck in doing or thinking something that holds them back.
• Your therapist will tell you things that don’t make sense to you. Listen to them anyway. If they tell you something that seems impossible, don’t ignore it, ask how you can do that. If they tell you something that seems useless, try it anyway, then report back if it doesn’t work and be open for an explanation for why it didn’t work.
• Be brutally honest. Your therapist won’t be able to help you unless you tell them exactly how bad your situation is. If you spend 90% of your day in bed and tell your therapist you’re doing okay, they won’t be able to correctly identify what kind of help you need.
• It is completely normal to miss some of your goals. Therapy takes time and nobody will judge you if you take longer than others. Figuring out how much you should push yourself and when you need a break is hard. Either way, don’t be angry at yourself when something doesn’t work out. As long as you tried, you’re fine.
• Most of your problems are in your head. That doesn’t mean they aren’t real. It doesn’t mean they don’t hurt. It doesn’t mean they aren’t difficult to overcome. It just means that the only person who can solve them is you. A therapist can explain how to solve them but they can’t change your thoughts or your habits.

Night. Getting out of bed in time for work is hard enough. Showering in the morning would mean I need to get up even earlier.

What we do know is that the full title includes “as the Gravest Crime against Humanity” and I can fully respect countries having reservations against that when there are other similarly horrible crimes. I don’t know why Germany abstained but I figure that some people might be pretty angry at them if they declared the slave trade was worse than the holocaust.

The “Gravest Crime against Humanity” part honestly explains why so many countries abstained.

The slave trade was an absolute atrocity and certainly one of the gravest crimes against humanity but should we label it as the gravest crime? Do we really need to introduce a ranking between slavery, the holocaust and dozens of other genocides instead of agreeing that they are/were all bad without picking one as the worst?

They‘re not supposed to make money. They are a non-profit foundation that takes donations to develop an open source project and I expect them to spend those donations on exactly that project and not much else.

Pretty much the two groups that I had in mind but I wanted to generalize a bit.

And the other 80% only stayed because they were either not confident enough in their technical abilities to switch or had no choice (environment would need to be re-certified, software doesn’t work well with wine, boss said no).

Indeed.

Also, new Stargate, Pushing Daisies and Firefly are on the horizon.

Damn, Jedi Outcast used to be my favorite game for a looooong time. I remember so many online sessions and LAN parties with one on one lightsaber duels.

I almost punched a guy on the train this week for something similar. He had some music on speaker for a while, then asked „does anyone think this is too loud?“. I told him that actually yes, I think it is to which he replied „well I don’t care“ and turned it even louder.

It’s probably mostly a matter of getting used to the way Darktable does things and where it puts certain controls.

That’s what Camera Raw’s basic tab looks like (not my screenshot, I’m at the linux laptop right now). It has most of what I need for a photo to look “okay” before I dive into the other tabs for more in-depth edits. I’m sure Darktable has equivalent functions to all of those (they’re very basic after all) but at least with the default UI presets, I need to look through many different tabs and modules with unfamiliar names to find them.

Then there’s warnings like “White balance applied twice”. Apparently I’m not allowed to use the white balance sliders because the color calibration module already applies white balance? But that module doesn’t provide an intuitive way to select color temperature and tint?

I’m sure I could get used to all of that. But right now I don’t have the time or energy to learn a completely new editing workflow from scratch. Many open source tools suffer from programmer UI syndrome (I’m allowed to say that, I’m a programmer myself). They do everything the lead maintainer needs them to do but you often need to be intimately familiar with the software’s inner workings to understand what each control in the UI does. I don’t want to think about the differences between “linear Bradford (ICC v4)”, “non-linear Bradford” and “CAT16 (CIECAM16)” color calibration formulas, especially not when I’ve set my UI to “workflow: beginner”. I just want to make my photo a tiny bit warmer. Give me sensible defaults and put the super detailed settings out of the way until I need them.

I switched my laptop to Arch a bit over a year ago but my desktop is still on Windows 11.

The main thing that’s holding me back is the lack of raw photo editing software that matches my workflow. I’ve tried RawTherapee, Darktable, RapidRAW and a couple of others. So far, everything was either cumbersome to use, was missing important features or had suboptimal performance. With dozens if not hundreds of candidates, even one more minute of editing time per photo can quickly add up. Many of my gigs are event photography and my clients often want at least the roughly edited previews within 24-48 hours.

If any of you knows a tool that accurately replicates the UX, feature set and performance of (ideally) Adobe Camera Raw or (not so ideally) Lightroom, you’d make me the happiest photography nerd on the planet. Bonus points if it correctly imports existing development settings in case I need to re-edit or re-export older photos.

PSA: if you recommend I use GIMP, like so many before you did, I will block you. GIMP is not a raw editor and it can’t even open most raw formats without help from one of the tools I mentioned above.

The wayback machine has a snapshot of my personal Age of Empires 2 and Star Wars Galactic Battlegrounds fan site from October 2002. Digging around a bit, the site and its forum must have been online since at least August of the same year. (Edit: if you dig around long enough you’ll probably find forum accounts from 2001 or even older but those old phpBB forums usually only have a fraction of their threads preserved).

The oldest thing that’s still in use is a forum account from September 2003. Last post with that account was two weeks ago. The community is not as active as it used to be but we still do in-person meetups at least twice a year.

People who post Ask Lemmy threads then delete them (or their whole account) a day later.

International Women’s Day and start of daylight saving time in the USA. I guess this post is referring to the latter.

Hopping on a train alone for a couple of hours has been my default mode of transportation since long before I was 18. Mostly to visit friends so I didn’t have to worry about a place to stay overnight so if you don’t have that, maybe start out with a day trip.

That’s the universal human experience. Listen to every marginally famous person and they will tell you that a single negative comment feels like it weighs more than 100 positive ones. Then factor in that people who disagree feel compelled to voice their opinion while those who agree often silently nod to themselves and move on. So the 100 positive comments are likely representative of 500 people who agree but don’t say anything.

So far, you seem to be doing well. Don’t let a couple of the haters get to you.

Of course, if a pattern appears of many comments criticizing the same thing, then you can think about if there’s something you should change about your behavior. But even then, the change should come from your own realization that you want to change something, not from a desire to appeal to the faceless mass of terminally online weirdos.

From your other posts, I guess you are around 18 and this is your first long-term relationship. If that’s the case, don’t worry too much about it. Don’t expect your first relationship to last forever. Or your second. Or third. Enjoy what you have for as long as it lasts but don’t be afraid to move on when either of you becomes uncomfortable with it. If you treat every relationship as if it must last forever, you won’t recognize the signs if something develops in the wrong direction and you risk locking yourself into something you don’t want, just because you don’t realize that you have other options.

Breakups hurt like hell but they also help you grow. With each one you learn something about yourself, your life goals and what you like and dislike in a partner. I’m in my late 30s now and if you count everything that lasted longer than a year, I’m in my third long-term relationship right now, with a hand full of shorter ones in between. The longest one lasted for about seven years and ended because we figured out that our plans for the future had changed in a way that no longer fit together. Breaking up was the right choice and maybe we should have done it a bit earlier but at the same time, I’m grateful for every single day we had and regret nothing.

So in short: see where the journey goes. Be open-minded either way. Maybe you’ll stay together for another month, another year or another decade. Enjoy each other for as long as you’re both happy but don’t be afraid of ending things when you’re not.