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  • I have two. Both not the worst in terms of total delay but memorable for being horribly annoying.

    1. ICE train from Dortmund to Karlsruhe (Germany) in December 2017. We’d had a couple of centimeters of snow the night before but nothing too drastic… until right after Frankfurt am Main. A railroad switch near Frankfurt am Main Stadion was frozen and could not be operated so we had to stop for over an hour at that tiny station. In the meantime, the beer in the onboard restaurant had run out and some already drunk passengers stole the conductor’s phone to blast the anime music over the train’s speakers and argued who would leave the train to buy more booze. Eventually we had to return to the previous station where dozens of additional passengers boarded. We were confused but got told that ours was the only train that would even attempt the rest of the trip. In the end, we arrived about three hours late.
    2. A trip by regional train from Kassel to somewhere near Duisburg (Germany) in September 2021. Should have taken about four hours but due to an unexpected storm and a tree that damaged the overhead lines, the train had to stop in the middle of nowhere. It took 90 minutes just to figure out which taxi company would take us to the next station and a total of eight hours to get to our destination because it was so late at night that at some point no connecting trains were available.





  • I finished high school in spring which was a true blessing. I had always been a good student (4th best in my year) but got bullied for being a nerd.

    Over the summer, I worked as a programmer for a small game studio, making a Nintendo DS game that got cancelled by the publisher on the day we sent in the last release candidate because they finally noticed that their idea was crap and they should have accepted the changes we had proposed. Didn’t matter, I had already been paid and got a lot of experience out of it.

    In October, I started university which was a great chance to make new friends. By now I’ve lost contact with most of them but some are still around and I appreciate them a lot. I was lucky enough to already live close to the university so I could stay at my parents’ house.

    Through all of this, I was in the middle of my first serious relationship. My partner moved from across the country to a town just an hour away from me. Being able to see each other more often was amazing but at the same time it made things more complicated. We were constantly struggling with aligning our schedules, couldn’t agree at whose place we should meet and got annoyed when one wanted to meet friends on a day the other would be free. We broke up in 2009 but we’re still good friends.

    It was pretty much the peak of a community that I’m still part of today. Apart from long online discussions, we met twice a year for community events with about 60-80 guests who decided that it’s our turn to define what being a grown-up means. These events still exist (the last one was just a few weeks ago) but they’ve gotten smaller and some of that chaotic creativity has been lost forever.

    Overall, 2008 may have been the start of one of the best sections of my life. I’ve never had more active friendships at the same time, before or after. I had many of the perks of being an adult without most of the drawbacks. I earned a bit of money and could keep most of it because university is cheap in my country and I didn’t have to pay rent. If I had the chance (and could take a few people that I met later with me), I would probably go back.










  • For any non-trivial software project, spending time on code quality and a good architecture is worth the effort. Every hour I spend on that saves me two hours when I have to fix bugs or implement new features.

    Years ago I had to review code from a different team and it was an absolute mess. They (and our boss) defended it with “That way they can get it done faster. We can clean up after the initial release”. Guess what, that initial release took over three years instead of the planned six months.



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    That study seems to have had a massive impact that worsened his insecurities and his hatred for the world. There are other factors though:

    • In school (and maybe even in university), he was always the smartest person in the room, years ahead of his peers. That made it incredibly hard for him to find friends.
    • Because was that intelligent and talented, he felt entitled to a teaching position while he was still working on his Master and PhD degrees but his preferred university refused so he had to go somewhere else. That probably caused a lot of frustration and resentment.
    • When he was about 25, he thought he might be trans and decided to see a psychiatrist to figure out if he should seek gender reassignment treatment. He chickened out at the last moment, talked about something else and apparently had a really bad therapy session. Maybe if he had lived 50 years later, he would have had the opportunity to figure out who he is.

    He had always been an outsider who felt the wold was treating him unfairly. No idea if that was paranoia, narcissism, just a lack of good social contacts or a mix of all of that but in the end, some stupid psychological experiment turned it all up to 11.

    You know how many queer and nerdy people joke about leaving everything behind and moving to a cabin in the woods? He did that. And then he went a step further and hurt people. Really makes you think how many marginalized people are just one really traumatic experience away from losing it. And instead of trying to help, society slowly reverts back to casting them out, just to be surprised when something happens.