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  • You can probably start with careful exposure therapy. I’m not sure how to do that with germ phobia. I dealt with a fear of spiders by reading about them and looking at pictures until I stopped feeling disgust/anxiety. I then just kind of noted and moved on when I saw one in real life. These days I see a spider and can even move it if it’s in a bad spot without feeling anxious.

    Not knowing your triggers, I can’t say if that path would help or make it worse.

    https://fherehab.com/learning/germophobia-treatment This could be useful for learning terms so you can look up and find reviews for self help books.

    For my social anxiety, I started out getting books from the library about that specific phobia. It took a lot of time to get from there to telling my doctor I was anxious all the time, to medication, and then therapy. I doubt I’ll ever be free of it, but I can do a lot of things now I once couldn’t (small talk with customers? wow!)

    It kind of has to be guided by you and the specifics of your phobia, unfortunately. Like, would looking at a picture of a dirty surface for five minutes a day make you anxious? Just a little, or a lot? If a little, try it. If a lot, scale it back further. Hopefully someone with a similar phobia comes around with more relevant advice. Good luck?





  • I wish we could offer the victims lifelong protection from retribution if they agree to name names. They deserve to live full, healthy lives and the people who hurt them need to face justice. As it is…

    https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/epstein-survivors-list/

    When they’ve tried to do anything, nothing comes of it and their lives get worse.

    “Most of the individuals, the victims, are very scared to say these names because they could get sued. They’re going to get attacked, and nobody protected them the first time and that was against one person,” Edwards said.

    Henderson added, “I think if someone’s interested in prosecuting, they may have something different to say about sharing a list, but they’re not sharing a list for nothing to happen. And that’s the experience that they’ve had for all of these years.”

    All their lives, they get treated like a sacrifice for other people to get what they want. They get raped to fulfill the fantasies of the powerful. They get threatened if they ever say anything. Now, the well intentioned keep pushing them to come out with names for the greater good. Are there negotiations behind the scenes to make sure the people who victimized them don’t use their considerable power and lack of interest in abiding to the law (by definition, if someone raped a child, they don’t care about exclusively following the law) to further harm them? And everyone they care about?













  • Some of the ones that get to stay professional are also majority female, so there’s something else going on too, but I’m sure sexism is also hugely involved.

    Like, a sensible list for higher loan thresholds would be how genuinely expensive it is to train someone in it. Like, how much the gear - books, equipment, normal trainer salaries, etc - cost. And nursing would have to be high in that regard. If they aren’t using more objective measures because this is a vibes based government, bias that treats women’s jobs as less valuable seems like a likely reason for the change.