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Cake day: February 23rd, 2024

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  • wishful thinking mostly. it’s a form of escapism/fantasizing about a better future, rather than actually dealing with the complex problems of ones current reality.

    just like a lot of poor people gamble their disposable income in the hope they will become rich, because saving it and investing it is too abstract/difficult of a concept for them. and the momentary hope/high of the activity is provides immediate gratification.

    where as richer people see gambling as a leisure activity, they don’t see it as a path to riches. they understand getting richer requires saving their income and investing it and waiting for the payout 10-20 years in the future when those investments double/triple in value.

    I mean, I was super into communist/anarchistic when I was a teenager. Then I went to college and realized the world is way more complex/chaotic than anything those theories can cope with, and most theory is really. But generally I prefer theories that acknowledge the basic truths of reality and don’t pretend there is a ideal form of anything.










  • social media is re-wiring adult brains too. it creates a delusional sense of reality for those who are deeply into it and that distortion filters out to everyone else. i can’t talk to social media users anymore because they live in a pocket universe in their heads and they are terrified to interact with people outside of the bubble.

    music, movies, games, are all fictional. they aren’t distorting reality for most people the way social media is.

    social media is also algorithmically driven to push your worse fears, anxieties, and other psychological triggers to keep you hooked. video games aren’t like that. nor is music or comic books or other new media.


  • People do things for social approval. That’s my point. Social approval requires meeting other people’s standards, not your own.

    And when your standards are not in synch with the people around you, it’s miserable and leads to conflict.

    Where I come from ‘bettering yourself’ got you socially shitcanned. And that’s true for a lot of parts of the world and family relationships.

    The mantra of meritocractic achievement is only social and rewarding among the upper middle classes, in the USA at least. If you existing outside of that, you people often regard ‘self improvement’ with hostility.


  • according to whose standards?

    i like to read books and learn and try new things. i also of a lot of athletics, like half marathon type stuff.

    a lot of people think i’m a massive asshole for doing these things, as me merely talking about my interests and lifestyle ‘triggers’ them, as in makes them feel insecure about themselves. also they were not making me popular, famous, or rich, so what is the point of any of it?

    according to my exes i would have been a better person if i gave up all my hobbies, got a soulless corporate job to make as much money as possible, and then spent most of that money on them…

    a lot of people’s desires/goals require other people being subordinate to them, including you. and if you don’t comply, they will think you’re a shitty person.


  • picking up litter in your local park, or just volunteering to trim the weeds in it, does make a big impact.

    the problem is once you start doing that don’t hang around in the park looking for litterers who are trying to ‘ruin’ your good deeds.

    i have notice in volunteer work there is a fine line between doing good, and then imposing your rules on everyone else and become massive asshole. this is why HOAs and such go so wrong. they usually start off with good-intentions but get warped into perverse controlling nonsense.

    and if you volunteer and find out the people around you are weirdo assholes, just quit and do something else. i joined a community garden awhile back and left after 6 months because so many members were losers who were just shitting on everyone else’s plot for not being as nice as theirs or getting jealous that a plot 10 ft over ‘got more sun’. it was insane how petty and pathetic a lot of the long time gardeners were because they felt they were ‘owned’ the garden.