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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • Teach yourself and those around you that if someone pressures them, they should end the call and call the person, but NOT BACK.

    “Hey grandma, I have been in an accident.” “Okay, I will call back in a moment” now, don’t call the number that called you, but call your e.g. grandson’s number and talk to them.

    That kills any scam attempt and ensures that your grandson is talking to you.

    That works for your “bank”, or the police, or the government, or a company. For anything. Your bank and your government should appreciate your operational security.




  • Well she legally changed her full name because she didn’t want to have any relationship with her father and calls him a pathetic man-child.

    Elon musk doesn’t seem supportive and so consequently, he will probably not put her in his will, at least it is a real risk for Vivian (if she wanted his money). As she publicly said that she wants nothing from Elon, I would be surprised that she would accept the inheritance.

    So Vivian probably rejected her father, cutting all ties, knowing that she loses a predictably ridiculously huge inheritance. Like 1% of elon’s wealth would mean that 7.5 billion…

    So i think it is bit unfair to imply that she is only belonging to a minority. I also don’t want to talk to her because I just don’t care for her, like I don’t really care about my friend’s neighbour’s cousin’s mother-in-law. But saying that she is in a hole for being a child of elon as if it was a choice? Shitty take. But if if she would be in that hole, cutting off her father and consequently rejecting a huge inheritance, would dig someone out of that hole for me.







  • If anything, your position is in opposition to nihilism.

    There are different kinds of nihilism. Your position is in contradiction with the “purest” form. The absence of an objective value in anything and everything. Your position clearly values personal consent.

    There are other kind of nihilism, like political nihilism, might not be in conflict with your position. On the other hand, existential nihilism, the belief that there is no inherent meaning/value in life, might seem to align with your position but I think it is difficult to argue in favor of consent, even to being alive, while believing that life is inherently meaningless. I mean, why does the consent of a meaningless being matter to anyone? Of course, you could take an adsurdism position to it but then I would argue that calling you nihilistic would be a mischaracterization.





  • I just want to point out that saying something has the same energy doesn’t imply that it is the same thing in intensity. In fact, often we are hyperbolic to highlight the kind of energy that we are talking about.

    The reason why you are getting down voted is also not because of your opinion that these things are different, in intensity or whatever, but because it feels like you really want to make that difference. Why do you care so much about that difference? Why are you defending bad behaviour from being compared to other bad behaviour? Why do you care? Most of people that you called autistic (in a prejorative manner), understand that as you trying to justify that behavior, and the answer to the question of “why would they” is that they understand you as such a person. A person who is acting in a way and is trying to excuse it.

    Of course, I don’t claim such a thing but I thought, I would help you to understand this social event in your life, as these can be difficult to understand for some people, e.g. autistic people. I am proud of all the autistic people in this community who understood this interaction, good job! I know it might wasn’t easy for you.




  • I think it is rather questionable to express that any of the real world practices of the porn industry is “outside the scope” when judging the real world practices of hooters. I think it is shameful that hooters doesn’t have very clear guidelines. I think it is shameful to make “jokes” that could make someone uncomfortable in such a dynamic. And okay, the man is probably lying to his wife and speaks in vague terms. He probably wants to look at the servers, but does he do more? That is your assumption. Understandable one but an assumption. So let’s grant that he makes weird jokes to the servers. Is he really less of a creep when he would watching Mia Khalifa porn? Of course, as Mia probably wouldn’t know that he specifically is watching, he would cause less harm in a sense, but the question is not harm reduction but being a creep.


  • I don’t see how you conclude that e.g. the man in the post plans to bend the rules at all.

    The rest of your comment is disappointing. You know that I didn’t mean that a customer can’t sexually assault a server or former server. I meant that if the server quits, they are not longer being sexualized as part of their job and unless people are fucking creeps, their former employment should continue to sexualize them.

    Also well it is a regrettable career. That doesn’t mean you have to regret it. But it is certainly regrettable like any other career. And women like Mia Khalifa have expressed regret in the past and yet while she was expressing regret, porn videos of her were widely available and consumed. That is what I was talking about. Not that the career is always ending in regret.



  • Yes there is a difference.

    A customer of porn could share that porn long after that actress quit the industry and has publicly expressed regret.

    A customer of hooters can’t force the server to continue to be sexualized at hooters.

    But let’s focus on your example,

    A customer could break rules at hooters, therefore consume porn and don’t go to hooters?