Sorry that that happened to you! Unfortunately there are many people in lesbian communities that can be quite judgemental about such things.
And some people just simply haven’t considered the difference between being attracted to and physical enjoyment derived from sex with somebody. Look at asexual people (who generally experience very limited or no sexual attraction) - some of them are having partners and enjoying sex, and it’s incorrect to say that they aren’t ace anymore because of that (although there has been some drama regarding this topic, go figure). Same in your case.
I’d say saying you’re a lesbisn is absolutely fine - you’re the final arbiter of your own identity.





Depends where you live, it’s somehow still alive and well in Poland! You’d usually use the lowercase xd for a more refined and low-key vibe tho, the full caps ones are reserved for special occasions.