29 days “lost” at sea, is therapy for all of the external bullshit we deal with every fucking day.

By “we” I mean people in society, not just men. Everyone struggles with making their way in “this world” we built for ourselves. We made it to be this horrible.

I felt this comment.

Thanks, I hate it.

Canada. It’s generally easy and free (no direct cost to me). I try to avoid having to go to my doctor whenever possible and I live with a nurse (and my doc knows that). Usually when I send him a message, either by email or by calling, he’ll have a follow up question or two (sometimes none) then decide a course of action and move right to implementation. Sometimes that’s sending a script to my local pharmacy, sometimes that’s a referral to a specialist. Who knows? I haven’t seen the guy in years. But if he made the request for me to go in, I would without hesitation.

I know my experience isn’t the same as others, since my doctor and my spouse have actually worked together; but still. It’s all free and there’s usually minimal waiting.

The only significant delays I’ve heard of in Canadian healthcare relate to major procedures when the issue is non-critical. Like getting an MRI as a precaution, to make sure things aren’t messed up or something (IDK what MRIs are used to diagnose, I am not a doctor).

Everything is triaged, so if you’re not actively dying from a thing, and you need a big piece of equipment to scan you to figure something out, you’re going to be waiting a while.

I’ve been there, done that. Welcome to the club my friend.

The only reason I got through my last layoff without stooping into a deep depression is that I’ve done this dance so many fucking times that I’m tired of it all.

Luckily I had a new job about a month later, which I 100% acknowledge is luck.

I still miss my previous job, it was much better than the one I have now. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not angry at being employed, I’m just sad that I didn’t get to remain employed with the last workplace.

I get it, 100%. Nothing you said is really all that abnormal. You clearly liked the job, and there’s no good way to express that loss. It’s just something you have to go through all the stages of. Eventually the whole ordeal will seem further and further away and you’ll settle into a routine and get your life back to where it should be. You lost something and it’s okay to be sad about that.

What isn’t good is if you start getting any worse than where you are at now. If you start sliding deeper into it, or you feel like you’re drowning, please seek help. The people who care about you don’t want to lose you.

My advice for the future is: never invest more than you’re willing to lose, whether you’re taking about money or emotional investment, the reality is that you can lose it all in a snap. Make sure you know what you’re risking and ensure you can sacrifice what you’ve invested if there’s a sudden change from management. Take care of yourself first, then worry about everything else.

You see, that’s a can. That can can’t be mistaken for anything other than what it is, a can.

Unlike a can of coca cola, which could be “soda”, or “pop”, or “coke”, or any number of other things.

Op is dumb.

I just wanted her sidekick… As a young boy that seemed to be more my speed.

Xena was a bit much for me when I was watching Xena on TV… At like… 5? 10? IDK. What year is it?

I’ve gotten into the habit of eating lunch while I’m working specifically so I can take a short mid day nap during my scheduled “lunch” at work.

Working from home has some nice perks.

As I get older, the value of nap time has increased.

When I was a child I was very anti-nap. In my youth I was very indifferent to napping. In my mid-adult years, napping is more important than most things.

I like the cut of your jib.

For feedback, I would just print off the federal labor codes for my country, highlighting specific sections. I’d just hand it to the management verbatim. I wouldn’t cherry pick or leave anything out, just emphasize specific passages.

Guess what? That’s illegal here.

It would be a thinly veiled threat that I’ll ruin their lives if they don’t back track immediately… All said without uttering a single syllable.

That’s what I would have expected/assumed. I haven’t had the time to review any of this in detail, so I’m not speaking from an informed position. Thus I generally keep my assumptions to myself.

Good to know.

As captain Picard said: it is possible to make no mistakes, and still lose.

That’s a fair point. I would argue that critique and constructive criticism should not be presented in a way that is, in and of itself… Mean (to put it simply).

There’s a lot of ways to do the wrong thing with the best intentions.

Genuine question: apart from the people who would profit from the activities she was fighting against, or the would-be patrons of such a business… Why would anyone carry hate for what she was trying to accomplish?

I know there’s a whole religious argument, which I find to be wretched at the foundation; just because you ‘have dominion’ over creatures does not imply that it’s ok to torture them and/or kill them for their fur unnecessarily…

Anything else? I just can’t think of anything.

I would assume that the trolls are attracted to those people because they get more of a reaction to their vitriol. It’s sad, honestly.

Idk why. If it was the same person, the information is relevant to the discussion.

I’m happy to know that they were proud of what they were doing. I hope it was a light in their life.

It’s terrible that anyone would hold any hate for someone trying to do the kind of work she was doing.

You’re not necessarily wrong. I certainly don’t have any information to refute what you say…

I’m just not sure that pointing this out on a post about a woman’s death is enhancing the discussion at all, so I’m not sure why you felt the need to share…

That’s the thing. You (and I) don’t know she wasn’t seeing a psychiatrist and/or mental health professional.

You can seek help and want to live while still losing the fight against suicidal ideation.

I don’t understand why anyone would be mad that someone was saving foxes from becoming pelts.

Unless you’re the piece of shit profiting from the suffering and death of those animals, in which case, your opinion is null and void, nobody should be against the idea IMO.

It’s incredible to me that anyone would carry such vitriol against such a noble cause.

May she rest in peace.

I get what you’re trying to say, but by saying it, you’ve demonstrated a significant misunderstanding of what it’s like to live with depression and suicidal ideation.

As simply as I can: I wouldn’t assume that she wasn’t seeking mental health help when she ended her own life. Just because she was successful in removing her own life, does not mean she wasn’t trying to save herself from that outcome.

Intellectually, the above statement is contradictory, if she didn’t want to die, then why did she end her own life? That, is the very nature of suicidal ideation and depression. You can’t intellectually ponder it out of existence, and you can want to live while still having suicidal urges that are hard to control.

This isn’t a logic problem. Intellectual reasoning doesn’t have a place in the discussion. The cognitive therapy you get from a mental health professional often needs to be paired with anti-depressants to mitigate the negative thoughts while you sort of work on rewiring how you think about the things that are causing you to feel depressed. Whether those things are internal thoughts, or comments from external sources…

Depression is a demon that isn’t easy to overcome.

By saying she should have just gotten therapy trivializes the struggle that some people go through every day, so I would expect some down votes for your comment. I understand that your comment is meant to be helpful and coming from a place of caring, but it does not come across that way.

I’ll add a disclaimer: all of the thoughts and ideas expressed here have no scientific, nor medical basis, I am not a doctor. These are from my own personal experiences and research, and have no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I may be wrong and if I am, I hope any readers will comment to let me know that I have erred.

A final note: to anyone struggling with mental health: I hope you get the help and support you need to overcome any struggles you may be experiencing. I sincerely hope you can find a path towards mental health that works for you.

Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.

My general rule of thumb is this:

Is this activity threatening to harm the lives, health, or well-being of anyone? Is this activity going to infringe on anyone else’s inalienable human rights (to live, bodily autonomy, to exist without constant fear… Stuff like that)?

If the answers to both of these is a concrete “no” then I do nothing. I mind my own goddamned business and move along.

If someone is doing something that can and likely will end up with someone seriously hurt or dead, then yeah, I’ll call and let someone know. Hopefully they can do something before anyone is seriously harmed. If one civilian is being mentally or physically abused by another, and I’m not in a position to intervene in a productive manner, then yeah, I’ll call for that too.

If nobody is getting harmed, either mentally, physically, or financially, then I couldn’t give any fewer shits. It’s illegal? That’s nice. The law can only be enforced if people who are tasked with enforcing it, take action. If they’re not here, I don’t feel any obligation to rat out someone who I don’t know anything about. Maybe they’re destitute because capitalism, or they’re down on their luck, or something… They have a whole life story that I have absolutely no knowledge of.

Also, I don’t consider corporations to be people (despite what the law might say), and if there’s material/financial harm to a corpo, it would be impossible for me to give any less of a shit that whatever is happening, is happening. Whether theft, or destruction of property, or whatever… No shit will be given for your corpo overlords and/or shareholders. You all can get fucked. So if someone is stealing from… Idk, Wal-Mart? And I saw that happen… Then I didn’t see anything officer. I don’t know what you’re talking about. That is an innocent person who has done nothing wrong. Where did they get the Walmart store-brand thing that they didn’t pay for? I’m not sure, they probably had it with them before entering the store. I certainly didn’t see them take anything that they shouldn’t have.

Don’t be a rat. Mind your own business; as long as nobody is getting hurt… and if someone is getting hurt, do everything in your power to resolve the situation before resorting to a call to the police. It’s actually really simple.