The restaurant business in the USA is a total scam from start to finish and here is why: There are multiple ways or “systems” to run service in a restaurant.

Most places outside the USA use a team service system. This means that the service team is trained to do all of the front house roles: taking orders, delivering food, making drinks, clearing tables, etc. They all trade off doing what is needed at any given time. This makes two things possible: Having a much smaller staff and paying them all a living wage, regardless of how many customers come in that day. It also means that there will not be anyone constantly interrupting you to try to up sell you more items. If you need something, you are expected to signal a staff member. No tipping is expected or needed.

In the USA by contrast, they run a system where a much larger staff is needed because the servers are acting like commissioned sales people. Each server focuses on a small number of tables with the intent of getting them to spend as much as possible. In exchange for this hovering continuous sales pitching, you get to also pay for the server. You have to because the USA system requires it. An owner cannot afford to over staff on their own so they get the customers to pay for it, on top of the food prices. The myth is that this system encourages better service because of tipping. The reality is that this system encourages constant up sells and manipulation to get you to spend as much as possible because the tip will be a percentage of that bill.

when i was 15 i spent one summer working at a summer camp making and serving icetea

Based on the description and rules, I had thought NSQ was for genuine questions you don’t know the answer to and may feel stupid asking. For example, “How can I tell if a carrot is safe to eat or spoiled?”

Rules 4 and 5, to me would preclude the kind of validation or discussion seeking posts where the title is an opinion question and body is an essay answering the question and asking for reactions. However, as you point out this actually seems like the majority of posts lately.

I thought those type of posts goe in !asklemmy@lemmy.world which says it is for “open-ended, thought provoking questions” and has a rule clearly stating it is not a support community. Yet the mods/members there seem happy to take and answer general support questions.

Maybe I’m wrong, but it seems like a pretty common theme in the Threadiverse that most community mods are more interested in post activity than strict rule/topic keeping.

If we were talking Product Manager, I’d gladly help. But this just sounds mean.

I guess I have a different idea of what require means.

That’s entirely possible. From what you wrote I think your definition of required is along the line of “that for which there is no possibility or option to avoid.” Is that accurate?

your not being arrested for not giving your PHI. You’re not required to do so.

I don’t really understand what kind of distinction you are trying to draw. If the question is, can an employer require you to provide medical information as a condition of employment, in so far as it pertains to fitness to do the job, the answer is yes. You do not have a right to ignore this requirement of your employer. If you did they couldn’t fire you for non-compliance.

Your employer can require you to start at a certain time, wear a specific uniform, or even to refrain from speaking about certain topics while on duty. You would not get arrested for violating any of these but that doesn’t mean they aren’t required of you as an employee right?

It won’t go before a judge or anything

If you believe you are entitled to both keep your job and not share the requested medical information with your employer, then your only recourse is to sue your employer to bar them from firing you, and take it before a judge.

IANAL but as I understand it, in the USA an employer can require you to get a medical declaration that you are fit for the requirements of the job if they see evidence that suggests that you might not be. You are then required to get that declaration from your doctor and give it to your employer. HIPAA doesn’t apply but it could go before a judge to decide if you refuse to provide it.

It is a misconception that the Privacy Rule creates a right for any individual to refuse to disclose any health information (such as chronic conditions or immunization records) if requested by an employer or business. HIPAA Privacy Rule requirements merely place restrictions on disclosure by covered entities and their business associates without the consent of the individual whose records are being requested; they do not place any restrictions upon requesting health information directly from the subject of that information.

Source: Wikipedia

even with good moderation the trolls or intellectually dishonest will wear you down

This is already my experience with any kind of nuanced or challenging topic. There are even examples in this very thread.

Yes and I’m learning that many serious discussion communities are invite only to make moderation easier.

I think you just described moderation in general :)

I’m not talking about trolling.

I’m specifically looking for discussions where Intellectually Honesty is practiced because that’s how the people involved would like to engage in discussion.

edit: typos

If you can commit to having an open and intellectually honest discussion about it, I promise you won’t have any logical reasons to support the catholic church afterward.

You can show the show, watch the watch, show the watch, and watch the show! Its a world of possibilities out there for showing and watching…

You drink a drink and you eat an eat. Like in the show Good Eats.

Reading this thread, it seems like two different groups of people are having two different conversations.

For me, self-hosting is just that, running my own stuff at home for myself (and my immediate family). My motivation is privacy and freedom. I want to use services that are free of commercial incentives against my interests whenever possible. That usually means self-hosting my services.

I’ve been a system and network engineer for most of my career and I like configuring and managing stuff. I like knowing how everything on my home network runs, where and what data is shared, etc.

As soon as people start talking about “my users need …” I’m out. That sounds too much like what I do at work. I want to relax when I’m at home. Jellyfin is perfect for me to do that with my content without needing any of my data to go to any companies.

For everyone who wants to be an IPTV operator, Plex is the best choice right now. Jellyfin isn’t really focused on that use case.

WhatI’ve noticed is that people who prioritize privacy and just want to watch their downloads on their tv usually use jellyfin and people who prioritize ux slickness and want to run an IPTV service for their friends and family usually use plex.

Why do people miss the Piñata right in front of them after being blindfolded and spun around?