Oh I would certainly think it’s the norm but I do wonder if there’s some culture somewhere that really is just that literal. Like shit we don’t know what the sentinelese (but they definitely give a dark sense of humor vibe).

I honestly can’t tell if this is just my ADHD or if this is just an overly dense philosophical argument that in true internet fashion has just gotten completely out of hand. There’s no damn good reason for anyone who will never physically set foot in any of these places to have opinions on this topic of that complexity or intensity.

Like my opinion on the topic is mostly that my country should definitely stop giving Israel weapons and probably send the Palestinians some food water and medical supplies. Other than that I’m not personally going to impose my opinions overtop those of people who actually live there.

The answer to imperialism isn’t trying to align your views with whichever side you’ve decided is the most right then loudly philosophizing about it from thousands of miles away. It’s the kind of thing you can’t undo, you can only stop doing it. The answer to imperialism is to shut the fuck up and stop meddling. Now the internet as a whole isn’t great at that (especially not the shutting up part), and I don’t think I’ll ever find a space that’s free of it. So I’m just gonna go with the place that seems as agnostic on the most issues as possible and try not to overthink shit that’s, in the end, none of my damn business.

I have a folder of shitpost diagrams that is way too small and I appreciate you helping me add to it.

This is the kind of statement that is so far at the extremes of both vague and unhinged that it’s not so much that I don’t believe you as that I would need to see some kind of evidence of multiple specific and unambiguous incidents. TLDR; you can’t just say that kinda thing with 0 receipts.

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Who do you trust more, the neighbor who closes their blinds or the neighbor running around house to house trying to look in everyone’s windows?

Get a blue Mohawk and wear Hawaiian polos, cargo shorts, and tennis shoes everywhere. If you really don’t like what people see, change what they see. Or change the context they see you in. If you’re always hanging around a cleaners with other people who look like Italian mobsters and you look like you fit in then there you are. Whether it’s ultimately worth it to you to change your appearance or lifestyle is ultimately up to you. There are, ultimately, 4 ways to deal with a problem:

1. redefine / stop thinking about it as a problem
2. accept that the problem exists
3. be willing to do whatever you have to do to change the problem
4. be upset about the problem.

#4 is the only one I vehemently recommend against. 1-3 are all roughly equal in the amount of distress you will be left with in the end.

I love stuff like this. It turns out there’s whole hidden worlds inside all sorts of people’s average workdays and a lot of the time if you ask they’ll just tell you!

Yeah the switch was a slow one for me. There was a long period where I was using both but it slowly shifted from using reddit more to using Lemmy more and a big reason was the usability of the ui. They really wanted to push me onto the app but it was so sluggish and every bug I reported about the web ui was met with “but did you try our app?” and like yeah I did and it was shit! It was bloated down with so many weird internal video features I didn’t even use (and probably tracking) that it was barely usable! Meanwhile boost just gets it done, consistently, and with like 0 bugs.

I would be so hyped to see a true dual Lemmy mastodon service that fully allows you to browse and post to both Lemmy and mastodon style feeds. Currently even kbin is really more focused on the Lemmy / piefed end and the microblogging function still requires the posts to be under a magazine meaning masto posts aren’t really browseable and they’re not really fully interact able from both ends. I feel like a service fully compatible with both formats would give a broader reach that would really allow fedi to grow. You’d be able interact with like half of fedi at the same time which would make it feel so much bigger and more comparable in scope to traditional social media.

Tbh the hose / sprayer kind is actually super handy for spraying out the bedside puke bucket. You can also use it for removing the large solids from reusable pads or incontinence garments or pet waste on a reusable or very rudely diy’ed puppy pad. I’ve spent so much time working with toilets that have a pull down nozzle for cleaning equipment that it’s just plain handy to have one at home for when the cat pukes on my favorite robe. You can also use it for a lot of types of food waste if you don’t have a garbage disposal.

I read it as a reflexive response to behavioral cues, meaning the body is responding automatically to context rather than conscious intent.

There’s the “yeah I made it here” in the driveway, which is basically a cognitive checkpoint where the brain relaxes its inhibitory grip. But as he approaches the bathroom, his reflexes to defecate and micturate reengage more fully, because environmental cues lower cortical suppression and let autonomic programs run.

If you take some time to focus on your bodily sensations more mindfully in these situations, you’ll also notice the sensation comes in waves. What you’re feeling there is not random discomfort but rhythmic signaling. That’s the conscious input of your visceral afferent nervous system reporting back on the peristaltic waves of your intestinal smooth muscle, which contract in cycles to move contents forward.

As a matter of mind body somatic reintegration, you’ll probably find that using your conscious mind to thank the nerves for keeping you in the loop will likely make the sensation less distressing. This works because acknowledgment engages higher cortical regulation rather than threat processing, which reduces amplification of the signal.

Most bodies get more upset when they feel like the rest of their complaints are going unheard by the cerebrum, because ignored signals tend to escalate in intensity to force attention. Even when there’s not a way for you to address the problem immediately, you gotta let them know they’re heard, or the nervous system keeps turning up the volume.

Doesn’t matter how famous the architect who made the toilet was if there’s only one of them per 100 people at a tourist event compared to the one per 10 any other time of the year. I’ve seen lots of fancy toilets but none of them have been able to hold 10 butts at once.

right like this is a whole new level of unhinged

I think this is the best comment. It’s not impossible that they chose OP due to some demographic category but they had probably been annoyed at all the other people too. From what I’m reading in other comments about demographics they probably chose OP because she seemed less likely to fight back. So to sum up, the bus driver had a real gripe, but they took the coward’s way to address it.

This is largely unrelated to OP specifically but I’ve been thinking about the bus drivers a lot lately because I get on at the end of the line where they stop to take their break. There’s always someone standing there mad that the bus driver won’t let them on. And first of all break is sacred, but also specifically; having a public safety job myself though, I get it. My guess is that the bus driver is considered responsible for our safety while we’re physically on the bus and people don’t realize how stressful that is.

You just have this constant low level anxiety of “what are these people going to do that I’m responsible for trying to stop them from doing, and are they going to get violent with me for telling them to stop?” And that anxiety is mostly the good type that’s low level and just keeps you at attention but you can’t maintain that level of attention continuously. You have to shut it off at some point or it starts doing weird shit to your brain both on and off the job.

I tell people good evening while getting off shift at 7a and good morning while coming on shift at 7p and honestly I just roll with it because then nobody gets on me for not remembering their names.

Yeah I’m US and my parents were always at least annoyed if we wore our shoes further into the house than right by the door.

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My thoughts exactly. She kept you in control of this. What you do with that is up to you, although it sounds like maybe this is gonna be awful whether or not the authorities are involved so maybe you should just stop trying to own his bullshit and focus on keeping yourself safe. Start by trying to record his threats or get him to text them to you in writing. Start building up any little evidence you can get. Make a protonmail and email all the evidence you can find to it so you have timestamps on everything. If you can get a long trail of evidence it should make it easier to both get him arrested and might make you more eligible to receive services. A sibling can also count as a perpetrator of domestic violence in a lot of places. Ask your therapist what tips they have for helping you work on securing safe and stable housing and having an emergency safety plan. Any therapist should know how to make a safety plan, they’re usually for the outpatient management of suicidal ideation but they can be used for other safety reasons as well. Personal and interpersonal safety can be pretty interrelated.