it’s the only social media I have that still has my real name attached. I use it to keep in contact with old coworkers, keep and host my resume, and I like their daily games. It also makes it easier to spitefully apply to other jobs at 2am but then those jobs actually call me and I realize I don’t want to have to learn 30 new people’s names and a new set of nightly charting requirements all over again. Doesn’t mean I don’t threaten my boss occasionally anyway.

Fun fact from a psych nurse: you can usually estimate how many years a person has spent abusing substances by how many years behind they seem in their emotional development. A 30y/o who still acts 20ish has probably spent ~10 years using. It’s not necessarily contiguous, they might have started at fifteen, used for 3, got sober for two, used for 7 more then been sober for the last 3, but they’ve probably spent about ten years using in total. Abusing substances lets people avoid the psychological crises they would normally need to confront to grow as a person. When they stop using they don’t get to skip ahead, they have to pick up maturing from where they left off. It can also happen with non-substance behavioral addictions (like gambling) but it has to be real bad.

The older I get the more I lose faith that the concept will ever be used to actually benefit creators.

CVSs and Walmarts usually have a free BP check station if OP lives in that part of the world. I second this by the way. Pork is often prepared with a lot of sodium.

People act like it’s easy to get into and conceptualize fedi. I don’t have a problem personally but I have a very rare level of IT comfort for my field and it leaves me feeling very lonely in spaces like this. I even had to take a tech competency credit for my degree (I tested out of it because it was basically a checkbox that asked if I knew how to type but-)

pppsssst: that’s why your body can’t tell the difference!

Breaking news: caffeine is DRUGS people!

This is not sarcasm; it is a psychoactive stimulant on par with coke and amphetamines. Your heart and kidneys do not know what drug schedules are.

Enjoy your psychoactive drugs responsibly kids. And remember that enjoying responsibly =/= deluding yourself into thinking they’re healthy.

My addiction ed for new techs that were hired with few to no actual psych qualifications is that they’re almost definitely addicted to something and just happen to be lucky enough that it’s legal. Common legal addictions:

• nicotine
• caffeine
• gambling including microtransaction phone games
• social media
• pornography
• processed sugar

Meet people: hobby or spiritual community are the two big ones most people meet a partner at. Look up cheap hobbies in particular something like a walking club.

Cheap places to take a girl:

• fish around in conversations for her favorite food. Pick the prettiest spot within walking distance. Pick somewhere out of the way but visible to passerby like the edge of a park. Check the calendar for favorable weather. Bring a blanket, that favorite food, and anything needed to make the environment comfy like an umbrella.

• if it’s just not the time of year for favorable weather book a library or community center presentation room and in addition to food fish around in convos for a favorite movie. Still bring a large blanket and push the tables and wheely chairs out of the way.

Any partner who finds effort over cash undesirable is just not a good fit for your life right now.

first of all, right?

Christianity was at it’s height when it was a syncretistic antiestablishment death cult. If I ever get a time machine Athasnasius of Alexandria is above Hitler on my hitlist. It’s not even because I have beef with the number three shit even the taoists like the number 3. but using the number 3 as a way to intentionally create divisions so that they can become opposing sides in over a millennia of wars is unconsciensable.

Suicide should be a human right. You should have to prove that you’re of sound mind and that you’ve considered and tried all other options. But once you’ve proven you’re not manic, psychotic, intoxicated, being coerced, etc and no other option will reasonably bring you peace you should be able to do it and get help making sure you don’t get stuck halfway or receive comfort care only until it’s over. Also every psych unit I’ve worked requires suspension of a DNR which terrifies me for involuntary admits.

Had an micro teacher a long time ago at community college where 90% of his students were in healthcare career tracks. He told us when we’re home to roll in the dirt, eat food straight off the vine after a quick polish with your shirt and for the most part only wash our hands after the toilet and before eating / prepping food or anything specifically medical like wound care or putting on contracts and that you should basically never use hand sanitizer at home. …then at work you wash your hands every time you touch pretty much anything. Said that was the key to a strong immune system.

It’s not the age gap it’s the raising her / being her caretaker as a small child and having all those surrogate father-daughter moments. Switching suddenly from father-daughter to love interest… 😬

…am I…♂️…???

Telling people younger than me not to worry about things. Like even coworkers I only have like a decade on. No you sweet little child that’s for us adults to deal with please wait off to the side and observe while I handle this bullshit.

It’s still fucked.

One of my coworkers commented on one of our difficult patients calling the weekend crew racist against them and how ridiculous it was because both the patient and the weekend nurses are black. I was like oh yeah no that’s because the weekend nurses aren’t black (being a cultural term for African-American), they’re African. Emphasis on the not-born-American. That’s different (to people who care about that sort of thing). Is it rational? Not even a little, but racism, despite the claims of phrenology et al, is about as far from rational as you can get.

I was gonna say that some of this is also probably sentencing bias. Subjectively the correlation seems too strong to not have some truth to it. I also have other data to support male = higher violence risk largely outside of perceptual bias.

As an example from my area of expertise, men complete suicide more often because they typically choose deadlier means (guns especially) vs women are more likely to attempt something like a drug overdose which is more reversible / leaves more opportunity for aborting the attempt. There’s not a lot of room in those stats for perceptual bias, dead is dead and alive is alive. It’s basically a known fact that men are more violent to themselves. I won’t get too much into the stats of violence against others except to say that the statistical predictor tool I’ve used for that in institutional environments didn’t use “male,” it used “male under 30y/o.”

On the other end of perceptual errors almost govern criminal sentencing. Entrusting a group of people to judge an event reduces some but not all of the perceptual bias, but certainly can’t eliminate it. And I do also have my own subjective / experiential perspective that is similar but in some ways inverted to yours (but is also almost certainly occurring in a 100% different environment):

When I first started in my field I was told and found to be true that when you’re breaking up a fight between men all you need to do is break eye contact. You get between them back to back with a coworker and if you can’t block their sightline to each other with your bodies you shove one of them around a corner. And that’s it. Within about 30 seconds they’re in tension reduction talking about their feelings in that emotionally constipated way western men do (“he just made me so mad!”). Otoh I was told and found to be true that you let the women go at it until the entire code team arrives from your surrounding units because you’re going to basically have to do a full restraint episode for each woman.

(Sorry I have lots of thoughts about violence it’s actually kinda my area of professional expertise.)

I did this to epic on my charge nurses computer last night and she thought it was magic. I’ve made it clear that I will provide these and many other services to the charge nurse as long as I don’t ever have to actually do it personally (I don’t want to have to explain to other adults what their job is). Thus the balance is maintained.