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          • mindbleach@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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            1 month ago

            And the explanation it was about “their rules?”

            And the explanation it was about “something only they do?”

            I’m still getting downvoted for asking about the error you admit was on your end. There is something broken about reddit-style comment threads, where once someone has a negative number beside their name, people insist on the shittiest possible reading, no matter how thoroughly that’s contradicted by follow-up comments. The words cease to matter. It’s a terrible habit people need to break out of.

              • mindbleach@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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                1 month ago

                To say what?

                None of this freeform hassling over complete phantasms ever has any good answer for why someone demanded explanations, ignored them, and continued giving me shit about a meaning of their own invention. When a follow-up makes crystal clear: the problem is them them them, and the response is still ‘so the problem is us?!,’ I am not convinced any sequence of words would be read for what they fucking say.

                Your options here include admitting you twisted two sentences beyond recognition, then treated every direct effort to politely address your bewildering questions like they were unjustified frothing vitriol. Nobody who pulls this shit ever takes that option. You admit it was a complete misunderstanding, you can see there’s no basis for it, you can read the several times I tried steering you right, and you’re still going to pretend this is a me problem. Not so much as an “Oops.” Just “I guess.” Yeah, you “guess” you repeatedly inferred the polar opposite of whatever I said. Why didn’t I just say the opposite of the opposite of that?

                I don’t want to be the kind of asshole who instantly escalates any confused response by asking ‘who the fuck are you talking to?’ But it’s repeatedly proven simpler, more reliable, and safer than trying to deal with shit like this in gentle terms. Moderators have lurched out to slap me when someone acts aghast at every dry-as-a-bone explanation of how I meant… what I said… and the other guy… is just confused. Once you’ve jacketed all responses in a snot-nosed sarcastic tone of voice, what explanation would work?