• wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz
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    7 hours ago

    Wow, this comment chain went from heartwarming to depressing real fast. I’m sorry you lost your friend.

    The loneliness epidemic is absolutely real, and this isolating society is killing us all by design and it breaks my heart.

    That’s true, but internet pseudo-feminists seem intent on declaring that the loneliness epidemic isn’t real and is just made up by the manosphere to oppress women.

    (This isn’t a statement against feminism, but the idea that anything that hurts men is feminist isn’t really feminism)

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      4 hours ago

      Hah, sorry, I didn’t mean it to be depressing. True, I was kinda venting a painful experience but . . .my sincere hope is that someone might learn from my mistakes, and finally stop putting off spending time with people who matter to them.

      There will always be excuses to put it off til “next time”, “one day”, “eventually…”, but we don’t have forever to get over them, and we need our fellows more than we ever have.

      And yeah, the terminally-online are a frightening combination of “ferociously bitter” and “obsessed with being ‘a part of something’”, that they actually rejoice in the suffering of others as if oppression is some kind of football game.

      I want no part of whatever someone like that is selling.

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        3 hours ago

        If I could get them to realize one thing, it would be that feminism isn’t about women participating in patriarchal structures of oppression as oppressors; it’s about abolishing patriarchal structures of oppression.

        If I got a bonus thing, it would be getting them to realize that patriarchy also harms men, that toxic masculinity harms men (and can be perpetuated by women), and that only a relatively small percentage of men can be categorized as “oppressors.”

        An oligarch is an oligarch, whether man or woman. And bullying a vulnerable man because he’s an easier target than an actual oppressor is not “smashing the patriarchy.”