One of my abusers has aggressive parents who are very strict and wake them up at 4 a.m. every day, and neither of them have very many friends nor boyfriends which they desperately want and are lonely. Should I feel bad despite how they treated me?

  • TheDoozer@lemmy.world
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    4 days ago

    Have empathy for the injustices others face. It helps you let go of hate

    This is a big one, though I have a more nuanced view.

    “That is a fucked up thing and shouldn’t happen to anyone. I couldn’t give two shits about that person in particular because they’re a piece of shit, but what is happening to them is unacceptable.”

    That’s how I feel about bad shit happening to horrible people in prison. A serial rapist gets raped in prison? Unacceptable. It shouldn’t be allowed, and everyone responsible should be held to account. However, I lack the necessary empathy to feel for that serial rapist. I try, but there’s a lot of people out there suffering more who did nothing or less that I should care about, and I have a limited amount of care. Doesn’t mean I’m okay woth prison rape, though.