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  • Withholding, I think.

    The trick is to know if you are withholding for good reasons (because there are lots of times you should absolutely shut the fuck up) and bad reasons (when you need help) and… complicated reasons (you need help and have a legitimate fear the person may not be supportive).

    At the risk of reading too much into this…

    Any time I hear someone mention sharing their deepest feelings with someone, my experience is it’s because they want to tell someone they love them but the other person is not into them for some reason — usually being with someone else, or not attracted to your gender. Should that be the case this time, you are withholding for good reasons. Keep your mouth shut. I have never ever seen that go well. It will not go well.


  • I suppose I would say you don’t just strip down and go at it. Generally you start with affection, proceed to foreplay over clothes, then under them, then remove them. And at every point you have the ability to just stop there if you’re uncomfortable going further. That’s a sign that you just aren’t ready with that partner and that’s okay.

    Even after you’ve done it once or twice, you generally still follow the same process and you can still stop at the point you’re uncomfortable. Just because you did it once doesn’t mean you need to again or on any particular occasion.

    It’s not until you’re married a few years that you reach the point of, “I have an early day tomorrow. If we’re fucking tonight, best get to it.” And skip all the foreplay.





  • I’ve avoided using AI features in Firefox. If I want AI, I explicitly go to AI rather than having it integrated. But you offer some good use cases. And fundamentally I agree that 100% fact checking with a 90% accuracy rate is better than the 0% fact checking most of us do except when we think something is wrong and we go digging through for arguments against it.

    That being said, I would worry about model makers building in inherent bias. Like I could never trust Grok as the engine behind a fact checker (though it is surprisingly resilient and often calls out bullshit it is supposed to be peddling).

    Like imagine the person who only wants OANGPT to summarize or fact check every article they read. Can you imagine the level of self-delusion that would come from a MAGA-fied version of everything they read? It would be like living in a propaganda factory. Deliberately.

    Facebook: Bob Smith [woke, probably drinks soy milk and dresses as a woman on weekends]: Had a great day at work today. [he’s probably on welfare so this is bullshit] Big things are coming! [He’s part of a trans pedo ring, guaranteed!]

    Which feels like stupid hyperbole, but I’ll bet every one of us knows at least one person who is that stupid.

    Eh. I use AI all the time, but my level of skepticism…