As weird as the title sounds, my family really dislikes me using Tuta and not Gmail. Is your family also like this?

“Come on, Sarah, can’t you just be normal and use Gmail like everyone?”

  • my mom, scolding me.
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    Ask her if all her friends jumped down a cliff would she also jump down a cliff?

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    No, they respect my goals and seem to have accepted that I’m sometimes just unreachable. The only thing they might be annoyed about is my GrapheneOS and Signal proselytism. If anything, it’s more apathy than antagonism. They’ll agree with me on privacy issues but rarely ever give up the conveniences of Apple, Microsoft, Google, etc. in practice.

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    Tell her; “no mom, if some 30 year old man was tracking me, reading my mail, texts and tracked my location you’d be getting ready to murder him. Why should I let gmail get away with the same shit?”

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    I’ll expand this question to my entire social circle.

    I haven’t found that anybody cares about my email provider. It doesn’t affect them because email is federated. Nobody has ever asked me why I’m mailing them from a domain I own rather than a service provider they’ve heard of.

    Where I do run into a lot of resistance is trying to get people to use Signal. Some people seem to find the concept of having multiple messaging apps objectionable, which has never made any sense to me as long as they have basic computer skills. On occasion, I’m on the other side of that conversation when I’m unwilling to use Facebook Messenger for reasons that should be obvious to anyone in this community.

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    • it you would have WhatsApp, we could keep in contact
    • oh, come one, we have a Facebook Family group
    • can’t you just share a Google calendar with me
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    my mental health was questioned so there’s that.

    my explaination about surveillance capitalism and what possibilities corporations have to spy on us fell on deaf ears and raised concern. i got called “paranoid” and also “stupid”

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      My answer is that I have a degree in CS and I work on the field. I know what I’m talking about. I literally work in the massive data processing field (not tracking, bank data but still).

      “No, they are not listening to me through the microphone of my phone. They don’t need to, that’s the scary part.”

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    Start using linux and install graphene on your phone ,all hell breaks lose

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    • Never defend. Always make a good attack.
    • Never say privacy. Never get dragged into tech yapping. Always say control, power, scam and abuse.
    • Never lead with gains. Human care most about loss. Always focus on loss.

    Something like:

    Watching big tech gape my inbox was never normal but, if you’re into that, I’m not judging you.

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    That’s literally everyone I know. They dont care about massive tech corps stealing everything. They have no clue they are feeding the machin e free data every time they use their shitty ai services. Drives me nuts.

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    Same here, while this was a few years back it’s still relevant. My girlfriends parents are helicopter parents and would have a back door into everything if they could. So the one day I noticed that her mother had said to me that she doesn’t mind us going to movies two weeks from then. This was only said between the two of us in a text. This was a good opportunity to switch her over to signal. She asked me if there is a way to check if she was in anything else so I had her change password and move over to a password manager instead of the paper notebook in her room that her mother probably looked through.

    Only a week later her mother did look through that notebook at one point for passwords because because she openly asked for it one day “so she could check her school email for scholarship information”, didn’t ask for just the password, but the whole notebook. From what I remember my girlfriend had a conversation with her mother about privacy that would turn into an argument.

    Moral of the story, even people you are told you are supposed to trust aren’t trustworthy.

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    I have found that even when people are conscious of the “technocratic & surveillance” state of the world, they still dont change their habits. Just like “this sucks” but they dont bother on looking for alternatives.

    Even when I tell them about E2EE services, or the fediverse, they’re like “that sounds awesome”, but they never try it. Once I had a friend try Pixelfed and they loved it! I was so happy hehe but it goes stale after a few days, since other friends didnt switch. But were both telling others to switch sometimes.

    My family uses Life360 for safety or emergencies, and I managed to switch them over to Paralino. It was all working seamlessly until they suddenly decided they wanted to go back, for whatever reason. I don’t know what it was, they wouldnt say, but it frustrates me that they would prefer giving out all out location info in rreal time to a company that has had many breaches and has sold such data, compared to a small one that can’t even access such data, and its just a few bucks. Idunno.

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    ???
    My Family?
    Fuck, I am against my privacy means. Shit gets too much for me sometimes. I also want to be an ignorant idiot and just trail naked online while doing fuck nothing to keep my shit private.
    Bbbuuttttt…that’s not what we do.
    We put in the extra effort, we go that extra mile to keep ourselves hidden and cover our tracks. So that those pesky piglets don’t come snooping around, steal our info and then pimp us out to other oinking piggies.
    We do it all.